I'm assuming this question is more for the guys? Anyways...

My g/f during PMs is SCAREY, I mean she'll say stuff that doesn't even make sense, then deny it after. It's like all her rational thinking is gone, she's an animal. She's thinks she's this ugly beast and all sorts of crazy stuff, is this normal? My mother is a phsyco during PMs as well. So I'm guessing it must be normal? The thing is, they're both totally nice and caring, rational human beings the other 3 weeks of the month. Any help would be aprcheicated....

Ted,

My current girlfriend gets moody at that time, I just watch what I say. I think your girlfriend must be a little bit extreme and I feel for you :lol:

I had a girlfriend that you couldn't tell one way or another....I got lucky with her, most women (that I have noticed, I'm not an expert, I'm a guy :lol: ) tend to get moody but wouldn't you if you were bleeding from there? I think you should just leave your girlfriend alone during those times. You need to learn a little phrase that helps me out a lot......."Yes dear" LOL :lol:

Boy, you're going to open up a can of worms with this one. I would have to say it's not the norm. My wife act's the same. For the first day she doesn't feel all that well physically. But mentally, she's the same. The women that work for me seem to be like that too. But I'm a guy, what do I know about it.

Originally posted by djdaffy1227


Yes dear"

That doesn't work, she knows I'm trying to avoid her when I say things like that. LOL I should have found a less intuitive girl. :lol: I say stuff wrong all the time, she's usalully very understanding, just a few days a month I'm being yelled at constantly. :D

I know you asked for guys opinions - but maybe it would help more if an "expert" offered her advice. ;)

Not all women are moody and irritable at "that time of the month", but I've known a large majority who are. (But don't ever ask them, we women will deny it vehemently and sometimes with a baseball bat. ;) ) If your woman is the moody kind however (or, more rarely, the borderline homicidal kind :D), it's best if you don't say *anything* unless a response is called for. *BUT* - here is where you get into dangerous waters, because women often want responses to things men never think to respond to. Just *pay attention*! If she says something and looks at you, she probably wants a response.

The exception to this rule is when she starts talking about emotionally charged things. You *cannot* win in this situation. Say nothing, and she will start a row. Say the wrong thing, and she will start a row. Your best bet in that situation is to offer to go grocery shopping (to get you out of the house) and hope she gets over it by the time you come back. ;)

In truth, there's no "official" way for a male to get through that time, because every woman is different. What sets one off, may never bother another. Just keep to emotionally neutral topics and try not to do the things you know she normally dislikes. Be helpful (when she asks!) and understanding and you should weather the monthly "insanity" just fine. :)

And she's only a teenager? Woo boy, I ain't touching this one.....

Originally posted by Pagan
And she's only a teenager? Woo boy, I ain't touching this one.....


I heard it gets worse with age. :cry: LOL I'm in deep sh*t. :D

Hey, from someone who's been there...

....your girlfriend sounds a little extreme. But really, it's not a pleasant experience. One time, I almost started crying in math class - for no reason at all. When you have your period, you don't really have control over your emotions. It sucks pretty bad. And it can be pretty painful too. I wouldn't know if it gets worse with age though. My advice is just to treat her extra nicely, she'll love you for it.

Dear Sweet Poor Ted!!!

Honey, it's just gonna get worse!!

Let me tell you....I am a RAVING LUNATIC $ITCH when I have PMS. I am NOT pleasant to be around in the least!! Aron is actually AFRAID of me during this time. One time, he and I were in Walgreen's and he asked me some inane question, (though he says it was important...yeh right!), and so of course, O looked at him as though he were insane, and told him that if he was unable to ask a proper question, perhaps there was really no need for him to speak at all for the rest of the night. Then I stomped away, got into the car and waited for him. As soon as he got into the car, I began bawling my eyes out, and begging him not to break up with me..........and then 5 seconds later, I began asking him if it was neccessary for him to breath so loud.

That was December of this past year. Shall I go on, or would you prefer Aron's email addy? He usually responds with "Yes Dear" which makes me want to hurl him through the air!!!

I do not like PMS, would love to go back on the Depo shot, but that made me even worse!!!

Sounds like you have your hands full, Ted. I've known both types of women. Some never showed any outward sign of it and some turned into
http://www.toonzone.net/looney/articles/tazzie-trans.gif

Good luck.

OOOOOOOoooooooooooo, Shakey, that is SO me!!!!!:lol:

Well, I might as well post something too. From a woman's point.... you might as well face it...when this is happening, there isn't anything you are going to do right, sorry, just have plenty of chocolate around, keep out of her way, but if she feels like having a mood swing and cuddling.....do it! I'm a little older than some of the females on here but I've been there and doing that for some time now and now my husband (god he's a sweetheart) truly knows the meaning of the words "For better or Worse" :lol:

Seriously though, good luck..it's just one of the many cons of being born a male, to have to put up with us and our moods. Trust me, we feel guilty when we have these moods. Wish we could control them. You guys really try to help, I mean you do REALLY try...and we do love ya for it! We just might not show it at the time...we would rather yell!

Originally posted by LOSTNTHE80S
we would rather yell!

That's what it feels like. LOL Oh well, at least I'm understanding. :D I can handle the beast for a couple days. I just pray it's over with quickly. :lol:

The only two women that I've really had to put up with during PMS was my mom and my current ball and chain. My mom is a stark raving bitch when shes on the rag, but then again, she hates everybody and everything by default, is never happy, and ANYTHING pisses her off, even what goes her way! So I expect that from her. I don't have to live with her anymore, so I don't put up with it.

Most of my girlfriends were decent when they were on the rag. Never really had a problem.

Now my current, she is moody all the time, and especially when shes on the rag, she can get that way. The deal is, I don't put up with it. Period, end of story. I'm sure its not the best feeling in the world when shes on it, but you know what, it ain't my fault. I didn't give it to her.

Depending on my mood, when she cops the attitude, I either ignore her or I get right back at her. I just don't put up with those kinds of attitudes.

Sounds like yours is a demon. All I can say is if I were in your shoes I wouldn't put up with that, but its your call.

Oh and another thing... the deal where she denies what she says is B.S. She doesn't want to try and defend herself, which is why she "forgets" she said it. Simply psychology.

You make the call...

Originally posted by aaronw
Sounds like yours is a demon. All I can say is if I were in your shoes I wouldn't put up with that, but its your call.

Oh and another thing... the deal where she denies what she says is B.S. She doesn't want to try and defend herself, which is why she "forgets" she said it. Simply psychology.

You make the call...


Ah, she really is for those few days. But, no matter how mad she gets she doesn't throw direct insults, more like she just gives me crap about things, like she'll whine ALOT.

She didn't exactly deny it, she kinda said she didn't mean it as I took it. In a sense it was denial. Maybe I was wrong? I dunno.

To me it's all worth it, she's a complete angel the rest of the month, I heard somwhere the nicer the women the eviler they are during PMS.

When the Hulkstress shows up....I hide and stay quiet!!:lol:
It's safer that way.

It's true, you can't win and you can't reason with them at that time of the month.
I always wondered why women call it getting their "friend"!?:confused:

Whith friends like that....:hammer:

I won't be included in this.

Hmm...I guess that the variety of emotions ranges from "So I´m bleeding...so what?" to "One false move and you are dead raw meat". You will find out in time. ;)

However, there are also a variety of reasons - luckily, no woman is like another.
If her symptoms are probably related to physical pain, she might want to see a doctor for a description of the pill. Now I can hear some people screaming "The pill is nothing for young women - first, think about the amount of chemicals which are building up in the body (the rational argument) and second, they think it´s like a green light for indecent behaviour (the real reason). I beg to differ there.
Of course, there is a certain risk in taking the pill - there´s also a certain risk in taking Aspirin. If she is on the pill, she should refrain from heavy doses of alcohol and nicotine - like everyone should. On the other hand, it´s known that this kind of contraceptive can actually ease physical pains (it can also ease problems with acne - some docs here described the pill for this reason at first until the early 80s, no B.S. here ;)).
I won´t deny that you both will feel better with the knowledge of the added security. :D

If her problems during "the days" are more related to a mental problem, she might also want to see a doc then. He (or she, of course) can probably teach her some techniques like autogenous (sp?) training or other mind relaxing routines.

No matter where her problems are located, you should react to her needs and moods in an appropriate way. Another lesson you will learn in time - as I´ve told you once before, there is no general instruction manual for women available. I know that it sounds dull, but you both are still young and have enough time to learn from and with each other. ;)

Her problems are more mental than anything, I do think professional help would be nice but, that's pricey since she would need a real good one. LOL

The pill is a good idea, she doesn't smoke or drink so not much risk there.

Soemone should make a manual, because somtimes I just don't have a clue. I'm getting better though. I can see those mood swings coming most of the time, the last one caught me off guard because it came in the middle of the month, she usaully PMS's around the 29th, this one came right on the 15th. It could have been triggered from my leaving her alone on Valentine's day to see Judas Priest. lol :D She wasn't happy. :p It didn't help that I told her I saw a girl that looked like her there and was staring at her the whole time huh? LOL I have alot to learn. I'm just too honest. :lol:

Look, if you want a manual, I suggest you start writing!!!!

*j/k"

Can you tell what time it is for me?!?!?:lol:

First of all, please do not refer to it as being "On the R**" I cringe when I hear someone saying that. Second of all, it's not necessarily when "the bleeding" as you put it is going on..it's mostly when our hormones are changing in preparation for "the event". Here are some tips that might help you along the way:)

The Hormone Hostage knows that there are days in the month when all a man has to do is open his mouth and he takes his life into his own hands!

This is a handy guide that should be as a common driver's license in the wallet of every husband, boyfriend, or significent other!

DANGEROUS: WHAT'S FOR DINNER?
SAFER: CAN I HELP YOU WITH DINNER?
SAFEST: WHERE WOULD YOU LIKE TO GO FOR DINNER?

DANGEROUS: ARE YOU WEARING THAT?
SAFER: GEE..YOU LOOK GOOD IN BROWN.
SAFEST: WOW!!! LOOK AT YOU!

DANGEROUS: WHAT ARE YOU SO WORKED UP ABOUT?
SAFER: COULD WE BE OVERREACTING?
SAFEST: HERE'S FIFTY DOLLARS.

DANGEROUS: SHOULD YOU BE EATING THAT?
SAFER: YOU KNOW, THERE ARE ALOT OF APPLES LEFT.
SAFEST: CAN I GET YOU A GLASS OF WINE WITH THAT?

DANGEROUS: WHAT DID YOU DO ALL DAY?
SAFER: I HOPE YOU DIDN'T OVER DO IT TODAY.
SAFEST: I'VE ALWAYS LOVED YOU IN THAT ROBE!

I guess those are jokes because I would never say any of those. I didn't kiss my moms butt when she was on her period, and I don't kiss my current g/fs butt when she is. No way.

Most women I have been around take out their pains on everybody around them... like its their fault. As I have said, I don't put up with it. I didn't give it to you, don't take it out on me.

Haven't had any women turn into demon over it lately, because like I said, I won't put up with it.

Maybe that was the reason why you were single for so long!!:lol:
Just kidding.. :D

I don't have mood swings.. I am just normally bitchy!!!

alright, look, don't bitch at her. Bitch at her mom, cuz her chromosome won over her fathers.

Originally posted by Shortie Blonde
alright, look, don't bitch at her. Bitch at her mom, cuz her chromosome won over her fathers.

Her mother's just naturally a bitch, I Hate her. :mad:

Her mother's just naturally a bitch, I Hate her.

you're screwed then. :p

Originally posted by Shortie Blonde


you're screwed then. :p

That's not true, she will never be a bad aweful person like her mother.

That's not true, she will never be a bad aweful person like her mother.

Awwwwwwwwwwwww. Just be especially nice to your gf and don't tease her about it. :D

Originally posted by Shortie Blonde


Awwwwwwwwwwwww. Just be especially nice to your gf and don't tease her about it. :D [/B]

She knows how I feel about her mother. She knows never to be like her.

I got me one of them crazy PMSin' type girls and at that time of the month,I get a sick satifaction with instigating her as much as possible,I figure it's better(and more fun)than walking on eggshells around her,and the scars I got ain't too noticable.

Culty, I love it!! :lol:

I am never moody during mine.. In fact, I hardly notice it.. I started taking the pill at age 15 and stayed on it until October of 2000.. so that could be my reason for being mellow.. My husband would never know I was on it unless I told him.. (I tell him so that he will not try to get frisky at night! And sometimes I don't tell him right away when I go off of it so that I can get a little more peace! LOL) He never knows! :lol:
I know.. that's pretty evil too!

I think the pill does help quite a bit.. you can still get PMS but I bet it's milder.. I have never experienced it.. just the bloating and cramping the first day and I just suck it up and live with it and I don't make it my husband's problem.


Even though I have been off the pill for over a year, I still feel great!

Sorry girls! :(

Lostinthe80s, your manual was great!!! :lol:

I thought maybe you would like to hear some advice from another girl.

I don't think it's that either your girlfriend or mom is psycho or a demon. (Seriously, if they're not that bad at anyother time of the month, they're obviously not demons! :lol:) I think a lot of it is just hormones. During that time of the month (if you're a female) there is a lot of weird stuff going on in your body, and that makes us say and do crazy things. Sometimes we start crying for no reason at all (Lots of things can make me cry during that time, and most of the stuff doesn't even make any sense to cry over), we get mad very easily, they can't make enough chocolate or other forms of junk food to keep us happy, and sometimes we live on Tylenol (or Midol or Pamprin) for those few days. We get tremendous headaches, and the cramps aren't much fun, either. Sometimes I feel like I just want to pull my insides out then to make it stop. Life just generally isn't a whole lot of fun then.

My advice to you is that you should try to be more understanding and supportive of what they are going through. I know it's hard to try to understand something you have never experienced, but sometimes it seems like no one understands you at all when you are going through PMS. I think the best thing you can do for both your girlfriend and your mom is to just be there for them at that time. You don't have to do much, just listen and give them a shoulder to cry on when and if they need it. Hope this helps. :)

Originally posted by Sarg
When the Hulkstress shows up....I hide and stay quiet!!:lol:
It's safer that way.

It's true, you can't win and you can't reason with them at that time of the month.
I always wondered why women call it getting their "friend"!?:confused:

Whith friends like that....:hammer:

Just for the record, that isn't my "friend." That is my worst enemy! :3pms:

Originally posted by *Snowflake*
My advice to you is that you should try to be more understanding and supportive of what they are going through.

I definetly will next time around, last time was just a shock. lol Mainly because it hit at an off time, I wasn't expecting to be yelled at for nothing. :uhoh: But, this time around (somewhere abouts the 15th) I'll do better, last time I didn't get mad at her or anything but, I did try to avoid her, this time I'll stay and do whatever she needs. :) Thank God for distance, she can't slap me. LOL :D

Just for the record, that isn't my "friend." That is my worst enemy!

Hell no!!! It's not my "friend"!!! EVIL!!!!!!!! :pms:

I'll warn you now... When and if the time comes for you to have kids, be prepared for "PMS" type symptoms throughout the pregnancy. Trust me... I'm living it now. Just remember it sucks for the woman going through the hormonal changes, as well. I had post partum depression after having my son 2 years ago. My Dr. put me on Welbutrin. 150 mg. per day and 225 per day during "that time of the month". I had to stop taking them when I found out I was pregnant last weekend. But it definitely helped to up the dosage of the antidepressant during "Aunt Flo's visit".

Originally posted by That 80z girl
When and if the time comes for you to have kids, be prepared for "PMS" type symptoms throughout the pregnancy.

Oh lord, I don't even wanna think of how scarey that will be. :lol: But, I'm understanding when I know she can't help it, I just try and make everything perfect for her when she gets like that. But, I don't do anything against my will, I'll be nice but, I won't bend over backwards and drive out at 4:00AM for chocolate. :rolleyes: I'll already have a well stocked supply for those days. :D LOL

So....some of our advice is paying off it seems. I'm glad for you. I've been following these posts and seems like you sort of just needed some input from the women's point of view. You have graduated from "No Way! Ain't gonna deal with it!!" to "I have plenty of chocolate on hand for her" :)

Originally posted by LOSTNTHE80S
"No Way! Ain't gonna deal with it!!" to "I have plenty of chocolate on hand for her" :)

Reading through the posts did help me understand. :) Now it's better for both of us. :) I just need to buy some chocolate. Lol :p

Well the past few days she's been PMSing but, she hasn't been moody at all, infact she's been alot better than normal......does this mean it's like building up and will be worse next time around? I took the advice of "Stay and listen" and that seem to have gotten me in good standing with "the monster". Lol I guess I'll have to watch and wait. It's scarey waiting for it to get moody. :uhoh:

Originally posted by Ted Nugent
Reading through the posts did help me understand. :) Now it's better for both of us. :) I just need to buy some chocolate. Lol :p

You can never go wrong with chocolate. Ever. Hope everything is now going better with you, your girlfriend, and her period. :D

Originally posted by Christine

with you, your girlfriend, and her period. :D

You must mean, me, her, and The Beast. LOL :lol: