All day today I have been so emotional. Iwould read an artical in a magazine and start to cry. I was doing dishes,started to cry.
I went to bed to relax and started to cry <img src="frown.gif" border="0"> I have no reason for this. I'm only 30 havent hit menopause yet. Now I feel just fine no crying <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> Do other people feel that way sometimes or am I just losing it?

I get that way too Topcat. Its just life. You can't keep you emotions in check all the time. As long as you don't start laughing hysterically in the middle of the mall, when you're by yourself, I'd say you're pretty normal.

I get like that too, Topcat and i'm almost 30. I think sometimes it can be because of the monthly bill if you know what I mean. <img src="wink.gif" border="0">

*Myst raises her hand* I'm 31, and I get extremely emotional...usually about a week or 2 before the cycle hits. It's completely normal...if it really bothers you, try to keep a journal on what you're doing when it goes off...do this for a couple of months and then take it to your ob/gyn...they can then determine if it's PMS or PMDD or depression...if it's something that's not there all the time, I don't think it's depression. Keep up on your vitamins and drink plenty of water and get rest!!!! Good luck, hon! *smooches*

Sounds like Myst had some good advice for you. I know I get pretty emtional once a month myself. I tend to get mad really easy then, not cry. lol I also have some other probnlems going on though. Known for a couple of months now that I'm dealing with depression. Need to see my doctor about it though. Just keep track of things and see if it happens once a month or through out the month. Just remember we're all here for ya.
*hugs Topcat*

Jazzmyn

OK, being the only guy here ( I believe) I would like to add, from a medical professional standpoint (stop laughing!) that if you even THINK you may have a depression problem, then by all means, have it checked out. There is no stigma anymore on people seeking treatment for emotional problems. They have some very simple tests that determine pretty accurately what you may have. Plus, you would rather get it taken care of, than let it go and let it become worse. The longer you wait, the more chance you have of needing more in depth treatment.
Either way, the bottom line is, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! We are here if you need help! Drop a line if you just need to talk!

I think I'm gonna cry (joking) <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> Everyone is SO great here <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> I feel real good now. I just got over my monthly so that must explain it. I also have a lot of stress at work which I'm sure helped out. I think I just needed to get it all out and the crying spell helped. Thanks for hug Jazzmyn <img src="smile.gif" border="0">

Topcat... that's probably it... you're monthly and strss at work combination can be pretty emotional... I'm glad you are feeling better!!! <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> *hugs Topcat, too!*

Hey TopCat... I had a roommate that whenever her monthly came along, she would get suicidal. After stopping her from throwing herself into traffic a few times and stopping her from running her head into the wall (no idea how much damage she has done doing that), she figured out that she just has a strong case of PMS. She's had less problems since getting married but she's started to understand how much it affects her. I wish you the best of luck on yours and glad to hear you made it through this one.

Thanks for hug Tinajo<img src="smile.gif" border="0"> 80snut I'm sorry your friend was sucidial aroud that time of the month. Glad she is better<img src="smile.gif" border="0"> And to think she had to get married to do that? <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> Must be a great guy <img src="smile.gif" border="0">

Can we PLEEEEEEZE talk about something other than everybody's "Aunt Flo" coming to town?

Just kidding, hope you feel better today!

I do feel better thanks Jasper <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> FYI "Aunt Flo" has left the house <img src="biggrin.gif" border="0"> hehe-- Sorry just could'nt resist making you go EEEWWW <img src="smile.gif" border="0">

What's wrong with me is, I made a wrong turn and ended up on the wrong planet. Actually, I for one can say not every emotional problem is due to the monthly bill. I don't even have one, being as I'm not of this world. <img src="rolleyes.gif" border="0">
Has anyone noticed there's a completely different feeling in the air? (and I mean this is before Bush got into office<img src="smile.gif" border="0"> The spiritual folk (that would be me) say that we as a world are awakening to our Truths. What's in our hearts..Big life changes for everyone. The truth deep in us is coming out to be expressed whether we like it or not. Crying and other ways to cleanse is going around more than usual these days. I'm sure it's not just the women,,so we can't blame hormones. Well, it's prob a bit early to talk like this,,but watch and wait if no one believes me. Over the next few years, there's going to be some Major changes, inside us and with our world. (all for the better, ofcourse!) <img src="wink.gif" border="0">

I think I agree with you on this Vilji. I've noticed something going on lately. Can't pinpoint just what though. I know I'm going trough a lot of changes right now. Something pushing me to change my life right now. Follow my heart and instincts for a change instead of my head.

Jazzmyn

Thats odd because I've been following my heart lately <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> <img src="wink.gif" border="0">

You guys are so cool..I'm gonna cry!
haha
look at the hollywood couples for instance
(since their lives are on display more than ours.) have you noticed in the past year how many 12 or 15 year marriages have broken up?
"Coincidence? I think not."

-some movie
it's just exciting times to me
i'm feeling more of the "matrix" thing
going on..
and my heart connection to others and my own inner baggage stuff needing to change..lol
ok, this sounds like girl talk now

It's all an illusion. "There Is no spoon."
(the matrix)
i feel that everything is fake sometimes. And I hate it, because I just want to follow my heart, and truth. But they keep us down-or try to, with fear and pain. It's illusion. Change your thoughts and your world changes with it.

-'deep thoughts', by Jack Handy

That's a nice quote Vilji. Part of my problem right is being afraid to do what my heart is telling me. Trying to get past that now.

Jazzmyn

Remember Jazz, the heart wants what the heart wants. (dont remember where I heard that) Anyhow, if your heart wants it, go for it, whatever it is. What is the worst that could happen? You have to go back to where you started from. Everything is a learning experience. So, even if things dont work out how you had planned them, you are still a better person for having gone through things.

Jazz, I was diagnosed with depression in January. I've had it since I was twelve or thirteen, but until a few years ago, I thought it was just normal teenage mood swings. I've always been a late bloomer.

I've been on meds and in therapy since New Year's, and I feel 100% better. Not shiny-happy-dancing better, but I was never like that in the first place. <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> Before I slid off my trolley tracks in January, I was worried that getting help was an admission of failure-- I've always been a very independent, self-reliant person. I was worried that meds would change my personality, but they haven't-- I'm still good old moody, introspective me, but it's a hell of a lot easier to get out of bed in the morning. I have good weeks and bad weeks, but every time I have a bad week I feel a little better than I did before.

Anyway... I wonder if we are in similar situations... now that I'm basically stable, I'm beginning to get to the reasons behind my depression, and I don't like them At All. I feel strongly that I've come to the wrong place in life, and I feel compelled to change, but I can't yet. if you want to talk about it off-board. m_m_cooper@yahoo.com

{{{hugs}}}

Mary

Mary, Congrats on getting help. A lot of times, that is the hardest part, admitting that you can't handle it all on your own. My wife has been in and out of therapy and on/off meds for most of her life. When she gets on a good streak, things are wonderful adn fantastic. When things or on the down side, it is terrible. It seems every 8 or 9 months she will have an episode and things are rough for a month or two. That is the hardest, seeing somebody go from perfectly happy to the crying, mad, or distressed.
I hope things are well for you, and am glad your meds are working. A lot of times they will not and the patient can actually get more depressed, since they have all their problems, plus add on the fact that they were really hoping the meds would help, and they feel let down. Keep your head up, and make sure you keep in touch with a good therapist, because that helps as much as the meds. If you ever need to boo-hoo about something, or just talk, let me know, drop a line!
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Originally posted by Jazzmyn:
<STRONG>That's a nice quote Vilji. Part of my problem right is being afraid to do what my heart is telling me. Trying to get past that now.

Jazzmyn</STRONG>

Oh, that quote wasn't from "Jack Handy."
I was just being silly. His quotes are a bit more cryptic..<img src="smile.gif" border="0"> That's just something that came out of my head lastnight. I get lame when I've had a few beers. (And my tolerance level is way down..<img src="tongue.gif" border="0">
Following our hears is sometimes the scariest thing to do. Because that's where there might be hidden fears or hurts from the past. But I think our soul knows what will make us happiest. And through intuition and emotions, it tells us where to go. It wouldn't lead us to doom and gloom. The head might,though, by accident..lol. (just a humble opinion. I don't think I listen to my own words though)
<img src="rolleyes.gif" border="0">

Thanks for the advice on following the heart everyone. I'll try to keep it all in mind.

Thanks for the offer of the talk Mary. I'll keep it in mind. I know that I need to call my doctor in the morning and set up an appointment. This is something I've been dealing with off and on for years now. I really need to go through some sort of therapy too. Had a very difficult childhood. Not sure I should even mention some of it on here. I know that I could trust everyone, but not an easy topic to discuss. I'll let everyone know how things go though.

Hopefully I'll find the courage to follow my heart though. Which means a cross country move. lol Think it would do me a lot of good even if it means going someplace where I don't know anyone. <img src="smile.gif" border="0">

Jazzmyn

<FONT COLOR="#6699cc" SIZE="1">[ May 25, 2001 01:24 AM: Message edited by: Jazzmyn ]</font>

I know what you mean, Jazzmyn. I've been wanting to move to California since I had to leave in my teen years. I've seen most of the eastern part of the U.S.(except the north.), and I still want to be I near the west coast. I'm in Ky right now. It's scary to just take everything and go. I guess I have to get that degree I never went for first.
I wish you well on your path.
there should be 80's communities for people living in the same areas.. <img src="smile.gif" border="0">

lol That's what I'm wanting to do right now Vilji. Go back to school. Except I see it as a way to move. I want away from the west coast. It's beautiful here, but not me. Not where I'm comfortable. I wish you luck on your goal of g etting back to california. <img src="wink.gif" border="0">

Jazzmyn

I've been feeling something is going on too right now. Not sure what it is. I hope the world is changing for the better. The last few years have not been that great.

I was diagnosed with depression in January. I've had it since I was twelve or thirteen, but until a few years ago, I thought it was just normal teenage mood swings. I've always been a late bloom.
Same here Mary! I've only been diagnosed with it the past month or so but have had it since I was in high school. Nothing worse than those horribe mood swings, happy one moment, angry the next, crying another. And you have no idea why! Shopping with mum is the worst, I get very cranky when I'm shopping, with or without mum! <img src="mad.gif" border="0">

I have a doctor's appt. on Friday. Going to see then if they can help do something with the depression problems. I'll let everyone know how it goes.

Jazzmyn

I'm glad everyone's getting help with their depression & hope you all keep feeling good {{{Big Hug}}} Too all <img src="smile.gif" border="0">

But what if you can't afford to go to a doctor for it, is their something from over the counter that will help?

There are a few things, but you need to be careful with them. I had one that I got that worked ok. It's OneADay tension and mood. Does help some. Made me feel a little better on bad days.

Jazzmyn

I might be off topic here since I only scanned the entries but there's a few things I can tell you that might help.

I was depressed when I was nine and we came back from the US. Nobody really noticed because 'little kids don't get depressed' so I was never treated.I managed to get out of it through a combination of factors one of which was my move here.Which brings me to my next subject. If you follow your heart, it'll always be worth it. Trust me. I've been there many times. I've moved twice because it's what my heart wanted and I never regretted it. Things didn't always work out the way I wanted them to or expected but I got so much more out of it than I would if I would have stayed there. Even now things are far from being roses but if I'd stayed put I would have really hated myself. It would have been a chance wasted and I would have felt bitter about it for the rest of my life.

It's scary, true but the compensations far outweigh the 'risks'. A lot of times I'm not too keen on having to move again but once I'm in the new place and have made a few friends I know it was worth it. And remember, if it starts out bad, it'll always end up good.

Been there,

Chris

Thanks Jazzmyn, I'll give it a try <img src="smile.gif" border="0">

Originally posted by Jasper:
<STRONG>if you even THINK you may have a depression problem, then by all means, have it checked out. There is no stigma anymore on people seeking treatment for emotional problems. </STRONG>

Very well put, Jasper. I totally agree with you. After my divorce, I became clinically depressed. It is a dark and lonely place to be. I would strongly urge anyone who even thinks that they may be experiencing this to seek medical advice.

Several people in here seem to be experiencing this one some level. Just remember that we are all here for you. I AM HERE FOR YOU! E-mail me, PM me, or anyone else. I promise that we'll listen.

It's nice to see so many people on here willing to help each other. Says a lot for the type of place Sal created. <img src="biggrin.gif" border="0">

Jazzmyn

{{hugs for all}} You know what else works, if you need a chemical-free boost? Yoga. I'm not always the best about actually doing it, but there's nothing like the calm and peace of lying on the floor at the end of the tape and "letting your brain soften," as the fruity lady on my Yoga tape says. (I like the series by Living Arts, especially their DVD "AM/PM/Stress Relief".)

Maybe part of what drives us to nostalgia is that our "real" present-day lives are not so great, so we like to escape into the past for a little while. It's also funny that the years I focus on the most are '85 through '87, when I was the most miserable.

But what do I know? <img src="wink.gif" border="0">

Many communities also have free and low-cost counseling for people who don't have insurance... you can also look into joining medical studies where they combine therapy and medication. (you might get a placebo, but it's probably worth the risk if you don't have insurance)

Originally posted by Mary C:
<STRONG>"letting your brain soften," </STRONG>

Hah! <img src="biggrin.gif" border="0"> I'm all for that. I use the "Lightscape Relaxation System" from Sharper Image. It is a set of glasses that you can put on that displays an ever-changing pattern of colors. I usually pipe in a little new-age music through the CD player. An expensive toy, but well worth the money if anyone has ever considered buying a set.

You are soo right, Dj..
That's cool that you had the courage to try and listen to your heart. It goes for love, where to live, what job to take, etc.. It can seem like the scariest thing in the world. It can separate one from friends and family when they want you to do one thing, and it doesn't feel like you. I deal with that a lot. I have to just conquer my fears, take a deep breath, and move forward. It feels like walking in the dark without a flashlight sometimes, though. But I agree, the heart is where it's at!
thanks for sharing that <img src="smile.gif" border="0">

<FONT COLOR="#6699cc" SIZE="1">[ May 31, 2001 11:08 AM: Message edited by: Vilji ]</font>

Originally posted by Vilji:
<STRONG>You are soo right, Dj..
That's cool that you had the courage to try and listen to your heart. It goes for love, where to live, what job to take, etc.. It can seem like the scariest thing in the world. It can separate one from friends and family when they want you to do one thing, and it doesn't feel like you. I deal with that a lot. I have to just conquer my fears, take a deep breath, and move forward. It feels like walking in the dark without a flashlight sometimes, though. But I agree, the heart is where it's at!
thanks for sharing that <img src="smile.gif" border="0">

&lt;FONT COLOR="#6699cc" SIZE="1"&gt;[ May 31, 2001 11:08 AM: Message edited by: Vilji ]&lt;/font&gt;</STRONG>

WOW! Vilji. It IS scary to follow your heart. Everything you said makes so much sense to me <img src="smile.gif" border="0">
This place is great! Its good to know that I am not alone with how I feel at times <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> 'hugs everyone'

{{{HUG}}} right back at ya', TC. <img src="smile.gif" border="0">

Thought since we were discussing depression in here I'd let everyone know what's going on. I saw my doctor today. Brought up my depression while I was there. I'll be keeping track of my moods over the next month to see exactly what's goin on. When I go back we'll discuss putting me on something to help. Trying to figure out the exact problem first. I've been dealing with this since I was a teenager. Just getting to be really bad again. This way you'll understand if I disappear for a few days here and there. Just keeping to myself lately. I'll let everyone know what the outcome is though.

Jazzmyn

that's weird, Mary because I tend to focus on 1982-84 which was hell for me. Maybe we're trying to recreate that and make it better, like you're supposed to do in therapy. or we subconsciously think that if we survived that and those times were bad, we can survive anything? Am I making any sense here?

I've heard Yoga works miracles. I'll give it a try. Although what I've just realised today is that I need exercise and if I don't exercise that puts me in a bad mood. And intellectual stimulation i.e. *not* lounging around feeling sorry for yourself( hope that doesn't make me sound like a snob). Although try convincing yourself that everything is fine and dandy when you're down.


And I really think a punchbag works miracles. Not that I have one but I *am* planning on buying one.


Chris

Originally posted by Jazzmyn:
<STRONG>Thought since we were discussing depression in here I'd let everyone know what's going on. I saw my doctor today. Brought up my depression while I was there. I'll be keeping track of my moods over the next month to see exactly what's goin on. When I go back we'll discuss putting me on something to help. Trying to figure out the exact problem first. I've been dealing with this since I was a teenager. Just getting to be really bad again. This way you'll understand if I disappear for a few days here and there. Just keeping to myself lately. I'll let everyone know what the outcome is though.

Jazzmyn</STRONG>

Yes, Keep us informed <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> We all worry about you and wish you well <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> 'hugs jazzmyn'

I hope things work out for you Jazzmyn. <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> Do what you have to do to get better. <img src="wink.gif" border="0">

I hope you get the answers that you want as soon as possible so you can get to feeling better Jazz.

We're here for you, Jazzmyn

Thanks everyone. Going to make me cry now. lol Nice to know there are so many people here willing to listen. <img src="smile.gif" border="0">

Don't cry Jazzmyn *hands her a tissue* Here use my shoulder if you need to someone to lean on. <img src="smile.gif" border="0">

We are all here for you, Jazz. I know I probably suffer from depression too. I just can't afford the doctor because I do not have health insurance at the moment. I have struggled with it for awhile. One day I will be happy then the next just crying all day. I have trouble sleeping too a lot. I hope things will get better for you.
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