I know that a few others here already know about this and I'm sure they (like I) have not posted about it out of respect for Jen's privacy, but I think Jen needs this community's support, prayers, etc and in some small way we can grieve with her.

On Friday, Jen suffered a devastating loss in her immediate family. I hate to be intentionally vague, but of respect for the family's privacy that's all I will say until she says it's ok. Although I'm sure she & her family are surrounded by lots of love & support right now; she needs the support of her internet family too.

Jen, my deepest condolences and most heartfelt prayers go out to you & yours. When you feel like coming back to our little community, know that we cried with you and we love you. :hug: :cry:

jen, you know we love you. Words can't say how I feel about this situation. You KNOW I'm there for you, sweetie. :hug:

I think until jen feels up to telling us more I think it's a good idea to keep the details private.

Update: since jen has posted the identity of the lost loved one on her myspace, I see no need to conceal it here now.

Jen's 19 year old daughter Stefani passed away Friday. Here's a link to the funeral info:

http://www.resthavenbatonrouge.com/services.asp?locid=36&page=odetail&id=6182

Again, jen, we love you, & our hearts are broken for you.

I'm so so sorry to have learned this Jen* and Nolan has definitely spoken for me on this occasion. You are in our thoughts and prayers here in Ireland.

Jen, please know how much we all love you. We are here for you with our prayers, love and eternal support. :bigangel:

I am so sorry, my prayers are with you.

I am at a loss of words.....:cry:

My deepest and most heart felt sympathies go out to Jen and Greg.

:hug: :rose:

Jen* :hug: You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. :hug:

My thoughts and prayers go out to you

Jen You have my most sincere condolences in your loss. I can't even begin to imagine the pain and sorrow this has put you through. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

There is nothing I can say here, I just cannot imagine it.

jen*, I am just so sorry.

Jen, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

I'm so sorry Jen, I will keep you and your family in my prayers

Oh jen... I am so very sorry. I don't know what to say. I wish I had magic words to make it all go away, but I don't. I only have love and that I send to you in truck loads. :hug: :rose:

Utterly speechless. :(

Jen, I'm so sorry. I don't for a minute think I could even come up with the proper words...you and your family are in my thoughts.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Jen.

There is nothing so painful as the loss of a child. Our thoughts & prayers are with you for peace and strength in such a difficult time.
:rose: :hug: :rose:

Jen,
I am so sorry.
Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you.
God bless you and your family.

My thoughts are with you and your family, Jen. So very sorry to hear of your loss.

What an awful thing. :( I'm so sorry to hear that. Didn't she sign up here as a member at one stage and post a little?

I have no idea what to say.
Jen, I can only pray for you and your family and pray that you are all well.

Please know you have friends here who love you and are here for you if/when you need us!

Very sorry to hear about that. Words can never make the pain go away, but we are here for you when you are ready. :ghug:

:(
Jen :hug: I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine the pain that you're going thru. My prayers & thoughts are with you and your family.

If you haven't already done so, please consider posting your condolences at this guestbook, so that Jen & her family can read them right away.

http://www.resthavenbatonrouge.com/guestbook.asp?locid=36&id=6182&offset=10

OH MY LORD,THIS IS HORRIBLE!!!!!

I CRIED WHEN I SAW HER PICTURE,SHE IS BEAUTIFULL!!

WE ALL LOVE YOU JENNY AND WILL BE HERE FOR YOU WHEN YOU RETURN :)

Does anyone know what happend to her??

http://80sxchange.com/forums/images/smilies/grouphug.gif

I'm not quite prepared to talk about the circumstances, but.....

Please know that Greg and I and our family can feel all of the love you all are giving. Prayers are all that is needed at this time and I know you are all giving those in abundunce. I love you all!!!!

jen*

I'm so very very sorry to hear about this. It's so awful :(
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family *jen

just getting home and online and just saw this. i can't even begin to say anything. just know like everyone else has said you and your family are definitely in my thoughts and prayers.

There's a song that always seems to help a little bit for me when a Family member or close friend has passed on. That song is "Let It Be" by the Beatles. Most notably the lyrics.

When I find myself in times of trouble
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be.

And in my hour of darkness
She is standing right in front of me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be.

Let it be (x4)
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be.

And when the broken hearted people
Living in the world agree,
There will be an answer, let it be.

For though they may be parted there is
Still a chance that they will see
There will be an answer, let it be.

Let it be (x4)
Yeah, There will be an answer, let it be.

Let it be (x4)
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be.

And when the night is cloudy,
There is still a light that shines on me,
Shine on until tomorrow, let it be.

I wake up to the sound of music
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be.

Let it be (x4)
There will be an answer, let it be.
Let it be (x4)
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be.

I'm not quite prepared to talk about the circumstances, but.....
Please know that Greg and I and our family can feel all of the love you all are giving. Prayers are all that is needed at this time and I know you are all giving those in abundunce. I love you all!!!!
jen*

All we need to know is that you are ok. :hug: You just do what you need to do and know that we love ya and will be here whenever you need us. :ghug:

God bless you & your family. :rose:

Just to point out how many people love Jen:

There's another thread to Jen over at Roem & Ingrid's site.
http://www.spiffy-entertainment.com/forums2/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=10366

Prayers are all that is needed at this time and I know you are all giving those in abundunce.Well we all feel we need to do more for you and Greg,i wish we could give you both big hugs,etc.....

God bless you both :):)

Just to point out how many people love Jen:
There's another thread to Jen over at Roem & Ingrid's site.
http://www.spiffy-entertainment.com/forums2/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=10366
WOW :thumb: Ingrid's post was beautiful. :vibes:

OMG, I just found out :( Jen sweetie, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May you find the strength to get through this difficult time and know that you have many friends that love and are here for you now and whenever needed :hug: RIP Stefani :rose::rose:

I'm am so sorry for your loss, Jen.... My prayers are with you & your family.

Where to even begin? Jen, you were the first person I met here on the exchange two years ago and I know it was your love and kindness that keep me coming back. I can't even imagine what you must be going through. You have my deepest sympathies and all the love I have to give. Stefani and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. :rose:

Michael:hug:

Jen, I hope all of the love sent to you can make a small difference. We are here for you, always...

That was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life. Stefani was so precious to me and Greg and I miss her so much. I look around my home and see her everywhere. She had so many friends who love her and miss her and are really having a hard time getting through this as are Greg and me. More than 300 people attended her visitation and funeral which surprised me, but not really (if that makes any sense). I could feel the love, not just from those who were around me, but from everywhere and from everyone. You all have helped lift my spirit with your love and prayers and I just want to hug all of you and tell you how much it means to me to know that you are here for me at even the worst time in my life. I feel so blessed to have such friends. I love you all. :rose:

jen

We love you too Jen :hug: We are family here, whether we have met each other or not. When one of us is hurting, we ALL are.

I'm so sorry you had to go through this sweetie. It will get easier as time goes on, I know you don't believe that now, but it will. Stefani's friends will help you through this difficult time, as you will do the same for them. In time you will be able to remember good memories and smile. You will be proud to know that you gave her all the love you had to give and more. Time will heal your broken heart and Stefani's memory will live on forever in all that loved and knew her.

If you need to talk, we're here to listen. If you need a shoulder to cry on, we'll be there for you. Stay strong sweetie, and know we'll be there every step of the way to help you through :hug:

Jodi's right Jen! We are a "Family" here. We've all shared so much of each other that even if we've never met in person, we feel a special "Closeness" to one another...like a family. We've all had our ups and downs, laughter and pain, but we persevered and made it to the next stage!

We've read with intense interest at your telling of Stefani's accomplishments (And there were many) that we've all felt a certain "Knowledge" of her (For lack of a better term).

When we heard of her passing it hit us deeply. We "felt" your pain (Again...for lack of a better term) and wanted to do something to ease your suffering, even if only a little bit...losing a child is something I cannot fathom as I admit I have no children, but like Molly I do have Neices and Nephews I am close to (I know...not the same thing). We knew we couldn't fully ease the pain.

We'll always be here for you Jen* in good times and in bad times. That's what "Brothers" and "Sisters" do you know! :ghug:

Chin up Sis! As long as you remember Stefani's Smile, her Laughter, and the good times you shared with her, She'll live forever!! She's looking upon you from above and Smiling.
Nolan Summed it up best Jen*, We all do love you and send you a big ol' "Cyber hug" :hug:. Some of us may be fortunate enough to be able to give your the real thing someday.

I feel so blessed to have such friends. I love you all. :rose:
jenWe all love you too sweetie!!

Isnt it good knowing you have friends in times of need??

We are a family here and we should all care for one another!!

:rose:

Just know that we are now, and will always be here for you Jen.
We are all family here and family sticks together in good times and bad.
When you need us we're here for you.
God bless you.

Jen, I am glad to hear that all of our love and support has helped you through some of your pain and grief. Although we cannot walk this long path with you, we are here for you, to help in any way we can, to encourage you, to listen when you need someone to listen, to embrace you when you need an embrace and to try and make you smile again. God bless you and your family, my beautiful friend. :bigangel:

I never know what to say when I see/hear of things like this happen. All I can think of is that I'm terribly sorry to hear this news and there just has to be a reason for God taking her at such an early age.. There just has to be.. :(

Jen, I can't even begin to say what I'm feeling for you and your family. There is too much. We are all keeping you in our prayers.

Jen, I am sorry for your loss. I'll keep you in my prayers.

Thank you all, again. I came back to work on Wednesday in an attempt to get my daily routine back to normal. It's difficult, but I'm going to be fine. You are amazing friends and I appreciate you more than you could ever know. :rose:

Thank you sweetie,those words mean alot :)

Jen my sweet! I am SOOO sorry.:( I don't get on here much and was quite shocked to log on to this devastating news. I am just at a loss of what to say other than to add my love to you & Greg.:ghug: You're in my prayers.

for jen--->:hug::ghug::hug:

for jen--->:hug::ghug::hug:

You guys just can't know how much your thoughts and prayers have helped my family and me. I never realized how many lives we have touched over the years. Stefani had tons of friends and they are all keeping in touch with me. I see them almost every day. I tell them that I need teenage hugs.

We've been working on getting her room packed up. I asked her friends to take things that mean something to them. That's helped a lot in reducing the amount of stuff that I have to deal with. Stefani was a pack rat! She just had so much stuff!

Knowing that I can come here for a few minutes during the day helps me tremendously. I'm not posting much (except in this thread) currently, but I will eventually get back to my old self. Someone told me "baby steps and one day at a time". I can't think of any words that are more true.

I can't thank you all enough for the support you've given to us. I hope someday to be able to thank you all personally.

luvjen

Jen you are the strongest woman I have ever come acrossed! I pray for you and your family every night.

OMG, Jen, I just read the news. :( My heart goes out to you and your family. I couldn't even imagine but know that we are here for you. I'm so very sorry. :(

Jen! I look forward to the day when the old Sassy funny Jen we all remember and love returns. At the same time I know this whole thing would literally tear me apart if it were my child. I don't think I have the strength of heart that you have demonstrated. I've said it before, I'll say it again...We are a family here..That makes you my sis! We've all been through a lot together, we will in the future. I read many times your telling of the many "adventures of Stefani". I feel in a way we got to know her through you! We also feel that Stefani must be a lot like her mom. :ghug::hug:
I'm convinced that Stefani now sits alongside my paternal grandmother looking down upon us both and smiling. My Grandmother was a very caring and nice woman. I know she's got her arm around Stefani and telling her "Your mom is going to be fine and so will you!" My Grandmother made a killer glass of Chocolate milk for us when we were kids, she's offering one to Stefani now! :bigangel::bigangel:
As always! We're here for you when you need us! We always will!! :rose:

Jen, all of your wonderful friends are here, taking those baby steps with you, every step of the way. :rose:

I just went back to her obituary page on the funeral home site and read all the wonderful comments left by my friends here at the xchange. I'm really having a difficult time getting through this, but your love and support are helping immensely. God bless you all!

I just went back to her obituary page on the funeral home site and read all the wonderful comments left by my friends here at the xchange. I'm really having a difficult time getting through this, but your love and support are helping immensely. God bless you all!

:hug::hug:

Chicka - :hug: I can't begin to think what to say. There are a thousand things in my head, but I know you've heard them all or don't want to hear them right now. I'm so very, very sorry to hear about this. And I'm sorry I've let myself get so busy that I found out so late. My heart is no less broken for you due to my lateness, chicka. Love you. :hug:

Still thinking about you every day jen*. Loves to you & Greg.:rose: :hug:

Jen, there are no words to say. I know how it feels to lose a child..doesn't matter if she was 2 1/2 or 19. It feels ***Literally*** like someone is reaching in and tearing out your heart ! My Carrie has been gone 16 yrs now and she would be 18, possibly a freshman in college.

I don't know what happened to Stef..but I remember over the 7 yrs that I have been on the xchange how many posts you had that mentioned her, what she was doing, etc...

Please remember, MY HEART goes out to you. I will think of you, your family, her friends, and maybe Stef and Carrie are holding hands in heaven right now. She will always be young, beautiful, and near you. (())

Okay, last post in this thread. I love you all so very much! You don't know even the half of what you've all done to help me through this. My children are and have always been my life. I couldn't have known that so many of you felt the connection.

I picked up Stefani's death certificate from the funeral home today, well, yesterday actually. I haven't spoken much about this, but now I feel the need.

She was battling drug and alcohol addiction and I thought she was doing a great job. With the hurricane leaving us without power for so long and a curfew in place, she was feeling a lot of cabin fever.

On the certificate, it lists her cause of death as "polydrug toxicity" (accidental)

My daughter died from an accidental drug overdose at age 19. She was a beautiful person. She was battling demons no one could have predicted. It is sorrowful for those of us who are still earthbound, but God has her in his arms now. I pray that she is finally at peace.

I ask only one thing.....

that those of you with children, or those who are planning a family.....

PLEASE speak to your children of this. Please educate yourselves regarding these things. There are hidden dangers in today's society that I failed to see. My family and I are now suffering because of it. I pray that it won't ever be any of you. I want to see pictures of your children when they are adults and have families of their own.

Keep yourselves in touch with your children. :rose:

Sorry again for your loss Jen. :rose:
You know, this drug problem with our youth is almost out of control. In the small town I work in there have been at least 5..maybe more..drug overdoses. THIS YEAR! So many are from mixing a couple prescription drugs with alcohol. Then when they can't get the high from a few pills, they add more. Then they take some to come down. A persons heart can't take that.

Young teens/adults tend to think they are invincible. Peer pressure and false knowledge that one pill with a few drinks won't hurt, is killing our youth. Prescription drugs are very easy to get and if abused,they can kill you! Like Jen said, talk to your kids about drug use and the reality of what happens to you. IMO, you have to be direct and you can not "sugar coat" it. Then pray and hope they do the right thing.

Once again Jen, my heart goes out to you. I hope that the loss of Stef will open the eyes of her friends and young kids around her, they will take charge of their future and stop all their self destruction. These kids are not only hurting themselves but loved one left behind are devastated.

Jen, your bravery and courage during this time is truly inspiring. By sharing your story of loss, I hope it can save the life of at least one person in this world, as I'm sure it will. All of my love and prayers continue to go out to you and your family... :bigangel:

It was deeply upsetting to hear about this, and I know from Jen's Facebook communications the sheer sense of despair and anguish felt over this truly awful tragedy. I cannot begin to imagine how you feel Jen - this loss feels very close to home.