I don't know if it's just me, but this Thanksgiving was not the best of times. It began ok I guess and ended with my husband getting insalted by my stepdad. All because Kevin (hubby) has his eyebrow pierced. Now whenever daddy dearest says something stupid I just :rolleyes: and keep my mouth shut. I mean what's the point to get :mad: and get into a yelling match with him. But this time, I couldn't take it anymore. And so I unloaded on him. I didn't want to upset everyone's time. But stepdad had no right to call Kev trashy. Well anyway, I came off looking like a moody bitch and just pissed on Thanksgiving.
So a few days later, I got a tattoo.(I've wanted one since I was 15, but wussed out everytime) I didn't just do it to get back at stepdad. I am 28 years old and I can make my own mind, and that tattoo fits me. It's Speedy Gonzales with his hands on his hips and it looks like he's telling someone off.
Anyway, I hate to bring out my problems to everyone like this.
Just wondering if it's just me and my crappy luck. :confused:

Its not your crappy luck. You should stand up for the one you love. I have had to do that more than once, hopefully I have made it abundantly clear that my wife is my life. Time will tell...
As for the original topic. When I was 17, I had decided to move out. Then my entire family decided to move to California (kind of a fresh start after some extremely bad circumstances had taken place). I stayed in Texas. Though I have no regrets now since I wouldn't have the great family I have now, it was really hard. The holidays were really, really tough. I am the sixth child out of seven and was always used to a lot of people around me during the holidays. Being by myself on both Thanksgiving and Christmas was harsh. It was eye-opening too. I learned from it and have not been alone since.

Around Thanksgiving 1992 my father died at the age of 38 and it was my birthday too. Thanksgiving/birthday has kind of never been the same. I was away in the military and flew home for the funeral. Every one was freaking out. No body really celibrates my birthday since I think it reminds them of what happened. At Thanksgiving everyone just kind of hands me my cards and thats about it. No biggie.


Jess

Jess, first off, Happy belated birthday! ~*~Smooches~*~ :). Second, that's just awful! I understand that it brings up painful memories of losing him, but it is also a chance to remember all the wonderful things about him. And eventually the wonderful memories would be the thing that everyone associates with that time of year.

Red, I totally agree. Stick up for your loved one. You did the right thing, ILKR!

I am not going to discuss my family in here, let's just say there was a rare good holiday here and there.

I hope no one else can think of a bad thing to post in here, because I hope you all had Hallmark type holidays. :)

I didn't mean to bring up really bad things. I apologize for this subject. I guess I just needed somewhere to vent my anger.

Don't be sorry, ILKR!! I'm glad you trust us enough to share your feelings and know we will be here for you! :) This IS a good topic, because it will help others resolve some of the issues that they have to deal with, too.

I just say I hope no one has any bad memories because I care about all of the people here and want them to be happy. I know, however, that everyone will have at least one bad holiday to share. Such is life. :)

Thank you for the kind words. I know that this a special time right now. But it also can be VERY hard on people. I hope everyone can get along. (I'll try with stepdad)

Originally posted by VALJ :
I know, however, that everyone will have at least one bad holiday to share. Such is life.

Well , only one ? I wish !!!! but I get to surf, so all is not lost ! ( surfin waves, not the web ! ). I hate all holidays 'cept halloween cause it's easier to wear a metalhead look and attitude these days. Pick me up ! Don't look so keen ! I'll deal with it .

TGND " official basher of every holiday and celebration "

No good reason to enjoy !

All of them! :D

Don't feel bad at all for sharing your thoughts with us. We're here for people through their badtimes too, good times are great but there are almost 2000 of us to lend a shoulder and some tissues.

I am so glad you stuck up for your spouse. My in-laws don't mess with us anymore either. My mother-in-law was quite abusive towards her kids when they were growing up (she was an evil step mother) and I won't tolerate that bullshit. The second year my spouse and I were together I had had enough and told them if they wanted a relationship with us to clean up their act. They walk on eggshells around me but I don't like to play pretend with people - I tell it like it is and if they don't like it...

Your step-father had no business attacking your spouse so good for you! It will blow over.

We have enough problems with strangers preying upon us, why should we have to deal with family doing it!?

I can't really think of any bad holidays with my family. I had about two Christmas that passed where my Dad and I were not talking, but that has been cleared up now.