Who better to ask then my friends here?

Here it goes. This is hard for me to even talk about but I need some opinions. I can not give all the details because it is very personal.

I have been online friends with this guy for sometime. We decided to finally meet for a weekend. I had it planned out. We would have fun and that would be it, back to normal. Then the unexpected happened. Something hit me. What, I am not sure but it was an intense feeling. Not lust. When he was here I felt at ease. I did not mind him being in my private life. We laughed and joked and I felt a connection. I think he did too. No, I know he did. I could feel it. The simplest things he did made me feel warm inside. I had a smile that ran deep whenever he held me near. To put is simple he felt right. Faults and all.

It was strange Last night I jerked awake. I thought I felt his hand on my cheek. When I woke up it was even more confusing because I never had this much of something for anyone.

This part of me says I need to forget about him and go on with life but the other half is attached to him. I want to be completely attached to him but I am not sure what this something is I feel. Can it be love?? And can you fall in love over three days?

Ted is one lucky guy :lol:


no seriously, Yes I think you can feelings for someone after just 3 days. Sometimes you do meet people right off, where everything is comfortable and fun, things just click :)

You are sick, Cal! :laugh: I needed that laugh. ty:*

Whew TC, this is a toughie. HOw long have you been talking to this man? Is this the first time that you met?

Some say that you can feel when it's right (my husband said that he knew he had stopped looking for the one the night we met).

For now, continue the wonderful friendship that you have with him and if your conversations deepen, then maybe express some of your feelings.. if you ARE SURE that he's feeling the same things. I know that you don't want to hurt that friendship, it's hard to fall for a friend. I guess just take your time for now..it could be that it felt so right when you were together...wait until some of the excitement wears off from the meeting.

I'm looking forward to hearing some of the other responses to your questions... I wish you the best of luck with this. You seem like a wonderful person and deserve happiness. {{}}

Follow your heart and do what feels right. Can a person fall in love in three days? Who knows? But if he makes you happy, then go for it. You only live once. Chances are meant to be taken, right? :)

Of course you can feel love after three days, but I would give it some time. You're young, you have lots of time. Enjoy this feeling, don't overanalyze it. I believe in going with your instincts, good or bad. They happen to be good this time. Just enjoy it!

So you're going to dump me, huh? :lol:

Okay...serious mode on:

You can fall in love within 3 seconds...and it's nothing impossible.

My advice...take it as is comes, lean into it, but try to keep at least one cell of your brain aware - and let the other billions have their fun with that guy ;).

(Back after a short interruption)

Enjoy it as long as it feels good... :thumb:

I was going to call you and find out how it went...but now I know!! :lol: ;)

I think it is possible to love someone in a short amount of time. :) I'm so glad you found a person who gives you all those warm fuzzy feelings inside. :)

One thing you have to remember....that one little hang up that you mentioned to Ron and I. How will that work out? Try to keep that in mind. That would be the only thing that I would tell you to take a step back and consider before going forward. ;) I hope it works out for you.

Topcat, I wish you the best, but any decisions you make have to include ALL the variables about his life and yours. Either way, do what makes the most sense for you.

I say go with your heart if it feels right to you then it must be right. Never hold back on how you feel because tomorrow may never come.

Good luck! :rose:

Good advice ..thanks Cal, Jana, Brandy, GSM;) Poison, Val, Jasper, and Jim. :ghug: I knew you'ns (lol) would help me make some sense of this.

Val, I am taking it slow and thinking of ALL things.

Now Jasper, this does not mean you can't stop on you way back to return your kids. We do have to finish that kama sutra book. :naughty: :lol:

Brandy said I was young! She is my favorite xchanger! :p

*edit to add* 101 views and only 10 replies? Some people are very nibby. :p

Originally posted by TopCat

*edit to add* 101 views and only 10 replies? Some people are very nibby. :p

Arrgh...you're right TC...I've been guilty of lurking around this thread, but you wouldnt expect anything else from your greatest English admirer would you? ;)

As for advice, well this evening is probably not the best time for me to give any as I've polished off a bottle of South African Red..... :lol: :goofy:

My gut feeling is that you go with the flow. Life's an adventure, so live it! If you don't jump on the rollercoaster ride, you'll never know where it could have ended up.

Sometimes I regret not having done so myself.....but luckily things turned out just fine for me :)

I say that if you want to explore your feelings for this person, go right ahead. Sometimes, people have different timetables when it comes to falling for someone.

I was in a similar situation sort of. I met someone on YL (Yesterdayland) back in October 2001 that I thought I had really connected with...but 3 months later, it kind of fizzled out. But, at the same time, two other YL'ers that I know of are planning on getting married this summer!

Sure, it's risky to do something like this, and yes, it might not work out...but you'll never know until you try! :)

Good luck!

I'm a lurker, TC. I have no idea what to tell you except go with your heart. :)

First off congratulations on getting up enough nerve to actually meet him. That took gutts!!!
You are young and life is passing you by. I say go for it.. make a drive to where he is and take a chance you only live once. Go to him look deep in his eyes and tell him your heart. You wont know until you tell him the truth. You will never know until you try: and wouldn't you hate to be 50 years old and look back at this and wish you did it differently.

I wish you luck girl.......

:tsk: Chopper and Jana! I really was only kidding.

I will go with the flow. and JHJ, I don't think this is a 3 month thing. We are friends first and foremost and (I think) have a way of connecting. We seem to talk about everything silly and serious and yet we seem to understand each other.

Thanks Milani! I say that very thing to myself about looking back. I don't want to wonder "what if"

We are being very adult about it a discussing every scenario. Sometimes I think he thinks too much about it though. :shh: ;)

I want to tell him to just go for it and assure him that I am very serious and not in this for a good time. I am reasonable. Yet when life gives you someone who fits, you have to go with it. That all the things we are afraid of will work out. To take a risk. That life in general is unsure but you never know until you give it a try. I feel as if he is a part of me.

Maybe in time I will be able to tell him. :)

Thanks tons! it sure helps to talk about this here. :)

:bigeek:
Is he from the Xchange :p

I know none of our business.. :laugh:


Good luck TC--- !!!!!!!!

No, not really.

If he lives relatively close to you, then go ahead and date to give yourselves the opportunity to find out if you're both compatible when together. There's no harm in that, is there? People meet people through all sorts of ways. True love? I don't know. Only you know. It's different for different people. I still think it's a nice story about you two meeting up and having a good time. I wish you the best :)

Originally posted by TopCat
*edit to add* 101 views and only 10 replies? Some people are very nibby. :p

That would be me too. :p

Given that it looks like all the info wasn't given, I'd rather not give an opinion. :)

Originally posted by TopCat
No, not really.
Hey, that means yes!!!! I'm scrolling thru the entire member list. :p I'm totally kidding. :lol:

TC, I am so excited for you. I think it's great. Why hold back if you feel this way? Just cause you met him over the internet??? That's a heck of a lot better than meeting someone drunk in a bar and most people dont question that. Keep us updated. I'm really excited for you. :D

Originally posted by TopCat
No, not really.



ummm was this once an X changer,who left, and I ended up getting scolded when I tried to wish him a happy birthday ?? :lol: :lol:

TC, well this is the FIRST time reading this, so now lurking from the Irishman on this. I would say go for it! As Milani says, take the chance and dont let life pass you by. And dont think that you are not entitled to meet someone and within minutes fall head over heels with this person. Enjoy it because its a wonderful feeling. All I can say is I'm dead jealous and he's a lucky guy to have you around him. As James Brown would say "Take it to the Bridge" and see where it goes, girl!!!!

Originally posted by TopCat
No, not really.

No...not really?

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

I'm only teasin'! Hope things work out for you, Topcat!

Topcat..I was re-reading this thread..why did you "TSK" me and Chopper? Did I miss something?

I think she meant Chopper and Jen. ;) She probably just remembered you replied and got confused.

HMMMMMM, Whatever could be distracting her so much?

Originally posted by TopCat

Now Jasper, this does not mean you can't stop on you way back to return your kids. We do have to finish that kama sutra book. :naughty: :lol:



Of course I can stop by. I've made three trips into your town and we are only on page 4. We gotta get through that thing!

Sorry Jana! I have had way too much on my mind. :rose:

Thanks, TJ, Lisa and Prefab.

Now you all are wondering. :D Don't get too excited he only has posted once or twice. Not a regular.

Originally posted by TopCat
. Now you all are wondering. :D Don't get too excited he only has posted once or twice. Not a regular.
I can see everyone running to the memberlist to see who has posted once or twice from your area. :lol:

If I am out of line sorry, but how is it going with this new.......not sure what to call it? :)

Ok so far..taking it slow. But I want to say things to him but not sure if the time is right. He is really the one. :shh:

Sounds like things might be looking up for you :) I am glad that you found someone that makes you happy. I honestly hope things work out for the both of you. :)

Best of luck! :)

Originally posted by Not Man
Sounds like things might be looking up for you :) I am glad that you found someone that makes you happy. I honestly hope things work out for the both of you. :)

Best of luck! :)

I know you do Jim. TY {{hugs}}to you, my wonderful friend.

Who knows what the furture holds for him and I. As long as he is happy that makes me happy also. :)

I still believe in love at first sight. what great news. what a terrific thread. Gosh Top Cat good for you :) I feel all funny he he :happy:

This is the FIRST time that I am reading this too.. LOL I'm so behind on things.. just so busy! I'm glad that you are figuring this all out sweety! You're such a nice person, It doesn't suprise me that someone would fall for you so quickly, too ;)

Best wishes to ya, girl! :rose:

I am not sure about this guy TC.:sneaky: He sounds like he is making you all gooey inside.:wildthing: You must watch out for this type. I have heard they sometimes can not control their emotions and say things just out of the blue. I would be careful and take things slow.:) Although, he does sound like quite the nice chap.:D I hope everything works out for you and him.:thumb: It sounds like you deserve the opportunity that may come your way!:love: I do think that a person can tell if it is right almost immediatly;)

Take care, sexy:*

Originally posted by Livinthedream


Take care, sexy:*

Hmmmmmmm :idea:

Very interesting. :p

Well,well,well has the curtain been drawn back? Has Oz been exposed? Looks that way to me :lol:

I have no clue who that goober is. :sealed:

However, the guy whom I speak of does infact make me all gooey inside. He is a VERY nice chap. Very considerate and respectful. Very funny and silly. I could go on but don't want to bore you all. ;) Let's say , when I was with him I felt complete. 'Course I could never tell him that just yet. :D

Did I mention how happy he makes me? :D ;)

Is it becoming too cheesy yet? :lol:

Cheesy? Definately, but hey, everyboody likes cheese! Grilled Cheese! MMMMMMMMMMM.... I love grilled cheese. What were we talking about?

I think I hear the phone ringing. Well, yes I do... It's Wisconsin calling. They said that they wanted their cheese back :lol:

Did I mention she leaves a gigantic grin on my face every time I think of her?:D

Just watch your step TC or you may get a :spankin: from the :cowboy: (whoever that may be :sealed:) :lol:

Originally posted by Livinthedream
[B]I think I hear the phone ringing. Well, yes I do... It's Wisconsin calling. They said that they wanted their cheese back :lol:

Jasper, the doofus said: Cheesy? Definately, but hey, everyboody likes cheese! Grilled Cheese! MMMMMMMMMMM.... I love grilled cheese. What were we talking about?



HAHA! You guys are too funny! :rolleyes:

Did I mention she leaves a gigantic grin on my face every time I think of her?

Just watch your step TC or you may get a :spankin: from the (whoever that may be :sealed: ) :lol:

I bet if she knew this she would be extreemly happy! (whoever she may be. )

Ouch! A spanking?! From a cowboy! Can I wish? :naughty:

*522 views hmm....:lol:

Buncha Nosey Nelly perverts, huh, TC? :lol:

Dare I make it more interesting? :naughty: :lol:

If you bulid it they will come :lol:

:laugh: Glenn!

If I did that I would have to take it to the LL. :D

I am glad to see you so happy TC!! It is great to be in love huh?

Originally posted by Milani
I am glad to see you so happy TC!! It is great to be in love huh?

no comment :sealed: :D

Now I am even more confused. I find myself doing things out of character. Trying to make him jealous even though I know that is not right. I could kick myself. Why would I do something so stupid? At one point he said he felt some jealously That's when it tore me up. I felt so aweful. How could I do that to someone I cared about? I wanted to take everything back. I guess I was hopiing for him to say he cared for me more. This is definately NOT the way to go about it. Someday I hope to be able to tell him that I am sorry for being so childish. :o
There are a few decisions he has to make in his life. I know he does not want to lead me on. How do I assure him he is not. He does not need to worry. (Yet I do wonder if he is not unintentionally using me. :confused: ) I need to assure him that if his decisions do not include me then I will get by. I am stepping into his life with open eyes. I know that things can go either way or no way. I don't know what I feel. It is so damn confusing. *insert headache smile*
At times I want to push him away but then he goes and says something totally silly that makes me smile/laugh. I am a sucker for that everytime. My heart warms to him and I know I can't push him away. There are some things he say that tear me up and I want to leave and try to forget about him but I can't do that. He is not someone I can not simply wipe from my mind.
A part of me says, play it cool. For now it is only a special friendship. Enjoy it while it lasts. Then the other part says, go for it you fool. This could be "the one" for you. Maybe some of this will help ..:dammit: My miind is going in twenty different directions.

Originally posted by TopCat
.........For now it is only a special friendship. Enjoy it while it lasts. Then the other part says, go for it you fool. This could be "the one" for you. Maybe some of this will help ..:dammit: My miind is going in twenty different directions.

I know how you feel Thresa, but this is something that must come from you or more precisely your heart. I am assuming this is a long distance relationship :confused: these aren't easy... I know, but sometimes you have to take a chance even if it means possibly losing what is important to you. There is a saying if you love something and set it free and if it comes back it was meant to be. :)


Good Luck! :rose:

Topcat, sometimes you just have to let fate take over. If it is meant to be then things will fall into place and you two will be together.

One thing though, you shouldn't try and make him jealous it just back fires. Some men don't like it, it just pushes them away more. Just let it flow girl, you are a wonderful person and I am sure he knows that and he will be yours.. if it is meant to be.

Thanks a bunch Jim, you are awesome! {{{HUGS}}} Thanks too for the e-mail. ;)

Milani, I will never try to make him jealous again. I realized once it all happened that it was wrong. I am lucky he is understanding. :)

A lot of stuff I post here are random thoughts. I have a zillion things going around and around. It helps to get some of them out here. :) I appreciate everyones advice. ;)


Fate..I wonder how real that is? I think sometimes you have to give fate a kick in the ass. :p

You do have to give fate a swift kick, TC. :lol: Think about it...if you do nothing, then nothing comes of anything. You have to let things run their course....but you have to be the director. :lol:

Just remember TC, playing games will only lead to mistrust and disdain. Be honest and dont act too girly, if you know what I mean.

Ron, I know exactly what you mean. I leared a quick lesson. Believe me, it will not happen again. This is one person who I don't want to lose. ;)

Originally posted by TopCat
Thanks a bunch Jim, you are awesome! {{{HUGS}}} Thanks too for the e-mail. ;)


You're welcome Thresa :) (((Hugs back at ya)))

I meant what was said in the email ;)