Polethebear
4-10-03, 09:52 PM
Hey Guys,
My father decided he can not handle my grandmother.He's gonna let her make choices on her own(ie nursing home or assisted living) and we are just gonna got out of here.
I'm gonna need to go ahead and update yet again my email back to polethebear@msn.com.With the warning,that the address will change to something else as i'll be getting cable service down there.Whatever else needs to be done,please let me know.Forgive my ignorance right now but i can't really remember what to do.
He's,I don't know.he Just can't handle her.She'll came in the other night while he was making dinner and i'm not sure what was said but he went ballistic,screaming at her.With her just looking at him and asking "what did I do?" like she was the victim.I honestly belive if she will to shoot someone in cold blood.Just shoot them,because say she wanted,too.It still wouldn't be her fault.She even tried to talk to me about it,trying to profess her innonece and I told she always had to say something.She told me to go to hell.
I think........I THINK part of the problem is she has gone through life and said whatever the heck she wanted to say and has been allowed to say whatever the heck she wanted to say.Therfore,she sees no problem in what she does or says.It's ok to pick.It's ok to be verbally abusive.On a side note,I would have been stuck with a dang HMO and god knows what kind of medical care i would have gotten.
He is not her favorite.My father has even admitted himself that he was the outcast.As he said,the one who got slapped upside the head,the beatings etc.He credited my granfather for some of that.But I have to belive she had a hand in it,too.She once told someone at my uncle's office when she and my dad were visting after being complimented on my uncle's success that and i quote.
"At least she did something right."
My father was in the room when she said it.
With that kind of treatment.I'm now seeing how he was so hard on me.It's like he told me.He was only doing what was done to him.Although we are doing pretty good now(I forgive,I NEVER FORGET) He was a SOB for years.I had problems with my grades in school and he told me that i was gonna be a ditch digger.I got chubby during my teen years,He gave me hell about that.
I think about that madonna song "oh father"
There is a line in there. "You didn't mean to be cruel.Someboddy hurt you too."
Look,I not gonna waste your time,i could go into my problems with the kids but that is another story all to itself.
I'll finish up by saying that part of my reaction to her was because of my problems with him and his reaction to her sometimes to me.it's almost like he saying "Why can't you accept me???" "Why am I not good enough??" It's one of the reasons I belive he got so angry to her over her tretment of me.
Anyway,I'll be gone sometime either sunday night or monday afternoon untill probably wednesday.No later than thrusday,I hope.
Take Care all,
Polethebear
My father decided he can not handle my grandmother.He's gonna let her make choices on her own(ie nursing home or assisted living) and we are just gonna got out of here.
I'm gonna need to go ahead and update yet again my email back to polethebear@msn.com.With the warning,that the address will change to something else as i'll be getting cable service down there.Whatever else needs to be done,please let me know.Forgive my ignorance right now but i can't really remember what to do.
He's,I don't know.he Just can't handle her.She'll came in the other night while he was making dinner and i'm not sure what was said but he went ballistic,screaming at her.With her just looking at him and asking "what did I do?" like she was the victim.I honestly belive if she will to shoot someone in cold blood.Just shoot them,because say she wanted,too.It still wouldn't be her fault.She even tried to talk to me about it,trying to profess her innonece and I told she always had to say something.She told me to go to hell.
I think........I THINK part of the problem is she has gone through life and said whatever the heck she wanted to say and has been allowed to say whatever the heck she wanted to say.Therfore,she sees no problem in what she does or says.It's ok to pick.It's ok to be verbally abusive.On a side note,I would have been stuck with a dang HMO and god knows what kind of medical care i would have gotten.
He is not her favorite.My father has even admitted himself that he was the outcast.As he said,the one who got slapped upside the head,the beatings etc.He credited my granfather for some of that.But I have to belive she had a hand in it,too.She once told someone at my uncle's office when she and my dad were visting after being complimented on my uncle's success that and i quote.
"At least she did something right."
My father was in the room when she said it.
With that kind of treatment.I'm now seeing how he was so hard on me.It's like he told me.He was only doing what was done to him.Although we are doing pretty good now(I forgive,I NEVER FORGET) He was a SOB for years.I had problems with my grades in school and he told me that i was gonna be a ditch digger.I got chubby during my teen years,He gave me hell about that.
I think about that madonna song "oh father"
There is a line in there. "You didn't mean to be cruel.Someboddy hurt you too."
Look,I not gonna waste your time,i could go into my problems with the kids but that is another story all to itself.
I'll finish up by saying that part of my reaction to her was because of my problems with him and his reaction to her sometimes to me.it's almost like he saying "Why can't you accept me???" "Why am I not good enough??" It's one of the reasons I belive he got so angry to her over her tretment of me.
Anyway,I'll be gone sometime either sunday night or monday afternoon untill probably wednesday.No later than thrusday,I hope.
Take Care all,
Polethebear