I know this might sound like I'm being a selfish brat, but right now I'm a bit upset about something my Mom might do this summer.
Last weekend, my Mom told me that my sister might be taking her to Ireland next June. My first reaction wasn't happiness, but a bit of jealousy. I felt like "Why can't I go to Ireland too?" I would love to go there, but I probably never will. My Mom seems to do more than me since my Dad passed away. I know she deserves all the attention, because what she's been going through, but I sometimes feel a bit jealous of her getting that attention.
My dream is to visit the UK, but I think the people I know will be going way before I do, and I just think it's a bit unfair. I'm getting sick of people telling me, "Well, save your pennies." or "Well, sometimes we can't go everyplace we want." All I want is my sister or brother offer to buy me tickets to go with them to the UK (because I don't want to go by myself. But I know that won't happen.
I want to feel happy for my Mom, and I'm gradually getting there. I hate feeling this way, because I know this is sounding very selfish. I just sometimes can't help these feelings. Sometimes it seems like people get to do great things, but I just stay in Buffalo and just "go to Canada". (no offense to my Canadian friends) I want to "go to the UK". And I want to be happy for my Mom if she does go to Ireland.
Does anybody have any advice on how I stop feeling jealous of my Mom about going to Ireland?

Sorry you're feeling this way BlueMolly. You are still really young so to say you'll prob. never go to these places is unrealistic. If you REALLY want to go then I bet you will someday. You mom is older and widowed so I'm sure your family members are just thinking these trips would be good for her. Hopefully it makes them feel good to do nice things for your mom. As far as the jealousy...don't know what to tell you about that one. It's understandable but it sounds like your mom needs this trip alot right now. :)

I'm gonna second what Lisa said, an add a suggestion - does yer sis go ta th'UK often? If so, maybe ya can make a deal with her. If ya saved half the cost, maybe she'd be more willin ta offer ta take ya an pay t'other half. Unfortunately, tickets even now ain't cheap an that may be part o'yer sis' reluct ta take ya. It sounds like she's makin th'stretch for yer mum cause o'the bit o'greif she's sufferin now. An tho ya may not understand it, yer mum prob'ly needs ta get 'way right now.

I know you prob'ly need some attention too, cause the greif ain't just yer mum's I'm sure, but ya gotta be patient with people. Some times they don't get th'bigger pic fer what's in front o'their face. If yer really feelin too left out, talk to yer mum. Let go the jealous for a tic, an yer desire ta go abroad, an jus tell her how yer feelin. If yer reasonable an as mature as ya can be bout it, I think you'll be surprised by th'results. Good luck ta ya, ducks.