Okay, the sad story goes like this:

I'm walking home from the video store, looking forward to viewing "Moulin Rouge" (Great movie...see it soon if you haven't yet), when these 3 girls say hello to me. We flirt back and forth and one of them named Katie "supposedly" (keep those quote marks in mind) is so liking of me that she wants my phone number, and says she wants to be my girlfriend. I felt good...I felt like all the advice I was given about waiting had finally paid off.

Well, she calls me today, and I was surprised to hear her. She said that we had things in common, but then she starts dropping bombs on me like Hiroshima. She said she lied, that her friends put her up to it, that we had nothing in common, and that she just wanted to be my friend. I lied and said "Okay". We hung up on each other, and now I'm sad.

Well, I waited, and a girl made the first move. It turns out I was lied to about waiting. Thanks for the sour persimmons, cousin.

What do I do now? I'm doubting whether I'll ever find a girl at this point. Why does this shit always happen to me?

Sincerely,

John "outofplacechild" Kilduff

Hey OPC... Don't sweat it, any girl who does that kinda SH*T doesn't deserve the friggin time of day! Sometime's unfortunatley this whole "dating" thing is a BIG game. It does suck but if you play it right you will meet the "right" person for you. Also, don't always believe what people say. She might of said that to you on the phone cause she was shy and used that excuse so she wouldn't feel obligated to talk to you. IMO, she did you a favor cause you don't need that kind of head game.

Keep standing tall and keep your chin up. Don't think of it as a set back... just keep going.

"YOU CAN DOOOO IT!" :thumb:

To be doubting you'll ever find the "right" one at your age is not right, you have MANY years and MANY people to go through before you meet the right girl. Trust me OPC. And to get sad over a girl like that, one who would lie to you is bad, not worth your trouble. Good luck OPC! :)

John, I am so sorry to hear that some girl could stoop that low and do such a cruel thing to such a nice guy like you. {{{HUGS}}} I know it's rough, but hang in there! I am just now at 30 years old finding a good man after being through some alone times and crappy relationships. It might take time, but it will happen for you. I know one thing, it always happens when you least expect it. Keep your chin up!;)

I say to hell with that bitch. Don't worry about someone so f*cked up like her. It is true many people play games when dating. But I think you need to find a girl that doesn't play any mind games or any type of games whatsoever. They're out there.

Hey John,
Vincent's right! You do not want a girl that plays mind games!
The problem is that many GIRLS do! A TRUE WOMAN will not! She is someone who is mature enough and confident enough in herself that she won't have to!
The mind games are what seperate the WOMEN from the GIRLS.Don't get me wrong it's also what seperates the MEN from the BOYS! But the mind games are much more likely to come from females.This is fact because the majority of men are sincere in there feelings and we don't try to tease and lead women on. We are upfront about how we feel about someone.This makes us more mature than most women in that aspect.While some of our actions seem childish and "boys will be boys . Sure we like our toys,sports and what have you but we are not afraid to know what we want and to go after it.Women will say "Oh, we mature faster than men do!"
Physically,that may be true but psychologically is a different story. The simple fact is women have all the control iand they know this.
They got "it" and they know you want "it". Imature girls will tease and play mind games because they know this but they're not mature enough to be truthful and tell you straight forward how they feel. This often leads you on and gives you a false sense of security and confidence in yourself. It's cruel but all I can say is your young get used to it!I'm almost 40 and it still happens to me occasionally! Age doesn't matter!I have known some 17 year old WOMEN and some 40+ year old GIRLS!Since your young and the majority of the mind game,teasing,immature women are young it will be tuff! But, hang in there. They're out there! Most important: Don't let one immature (or a hundred for that matter) GIRL make you feel any less secure and confident in yourself! See them for who they really are because they obviously don't see you for who you really are!You must tell yourself it's their loss! I know it's hard sometimes but it's the truth. The right woman will respect and appreciate who you really are and will not play these games. You'll know when you find her or she finds you and it will be WELL worth the wait!

PS I don't know if you read the dream analysis I did on the
dream you had concerning your jumping off a cliff but you might want to go back and read it.As I have said before if you would like to "talk" on line post a message and I will try to respond as soon as possible.

AARON A.K.A COOL BREEZE

John, I couldn't have said it any better than COOL BREEZE did. ;)

She was not worthy of YOU!!

You are a sweet guy and soon you will meet a "true woman" :)

A word of advice, don't bother "wishing" for that special someone. Don't go out looking for them . BE YOURSELF- smile and say "hi" to everyone you come across. Catch the eye of a woman you find attractive. Smile at her. (NOt creepy like though--LOL) That special someone will come around! :)

Katie:hammer: