I really need some help with this one!

OK, there is a guy that I really like (and I mean *really* like!). I haven't known him for too long but we are getting to be friends. At some point in time I would like to ask this guy out, but because of my bad experiences with stuff like that, I'm afraid to. How can I ask him out without giving him the impression that I'm some kind of freak or without ruining a friendship? Any suggestions will be welcome.

First find out if he is dating anyone or married. If he is then you shouldn't ask him out.
If he is not dating or married, find out what he likes to do?

Milani, I am shocked that you would be against dating a married man! LOL! Just kidding.

What I would do is this. Just say to him "hey, I like hanging out with you, would you ever want to go out to lunch, sorta like a date, to see if we could hit it off 'that way' "

THen you show interest, you ask him out, but make it like it is just to see how things would be. Plus, its my favorite:LUNCH DATE!

Milani, I am shocked that you would be against dating a married man! LOL! Just kidding

:lol: very cute Jasper.

Snowflake let us know how things go okay?

What's going with just going up to him and saying "let's screw"? I'm a big fan of that.

JUST KIDDING!

There's nothing wrong with approaching someone and asking for a date, or whatever it is. In my younger years (late teens, early 20's) I did it more often. In recent years I have been met with so much rejection, I won't bother most of the time.

The deal is, you can usually tell if the other person is interested. If you try to talk to that person and get ignored or shrugged off, then don't waste your time. If that person takes an interest in your or what you are saying, then by all means.

The worst thing he can say is no... well I guess he can say hell no, screw you, go to hell, but most people aren't that nasty.

I would simply approach this person and say that you are very interested in getting to know him better, you seem to have some things in common, get along well, etc... and would he be interested in a date/movie/going to some event.

Doesn't even have to cost much money. In fact, the date I went on with my now g/f hardly cost me anything. We went to the coast, I bought lunch and we did some VERY inexpensive things.

Don't be shy. Even if he turns you down, its not the end of the world. But you know something... you will never know unless you ask! If you ask and are told yes, great! If not, well at least you gave it your best.

Theres no shame in trying, regardless of the outcome.

Think Jasper has the right idea. Just ask him out for a casual thing. Lunch or something. Low pressure just to feel things out (not literally!!!). ;)

[i]Originally posted by Jasper

What I would do is this. Just say to him "hey, I like hanging out with you, would you ever want to go out to lunch, sorta like a date, to see if we could hit it off 'that way' "

THen you show interest, you ask him out, but make it like it is just to see how things would be. Plus, its my favorite:LUNCH DATE! [/B]

Jasper, you always have the best advice! ;)

Snowflake, so long as he don't order grilled cheese sandwich you should hit it off! :D :p

That's my little contribution:
If he's also interested, it doesn't matter what you do, it would be right... just find something that pleases both (a concert, a place to visit, a museum, a football match....) and told him you're thinking in visiting/assiting to it... If he's your man, the correct answer will be "I also want to do it". And the next step is just "why don't we go together?" (you can say that, don't wait to hear it!). If the answer is something like "I would like to go, but I MUST do... any other thing that day", just try it again with another event.
And finally, I agree with Milani: first you've to be sure he's not "already booked" (the best ones, we are... :D)

Snowflake,

I have to agree with Guancho here. Dont rush things but try to find something in common with this guy and see how things go.

Best of luck to you and lets know how you get on!

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Dont pay any attention to TOPCAT! If a man orders a grilled cheese, he is the safest guy to date. Why you ask? Well, because there is only ONE, yes ONE, GRILLED CHEESE EATING MANWHORE! So, all other grilled cheese eaters are safe to be around!

I e-mailed him the other night and I think he's ignoring me now. Crap! Why does that always have to happen? I find a nice guy, and then somehow I always do or say something to him that turns him away from me.:cry:

I wouldn't worry too much about one night. I was once talking to some chick via email who took 2 WEEKS to respond, and one she took a MONTH.

Maybe he is away, or didn't check his email? Perhaps his email is down? Could be dozens of reasons.

I wouldn't say he's ignoring you just yet. Too early. Well, unless there is proof positive that he is indeed ignoring you.

Don't stress so much over it. This is just peanuts, trust me.

Thanks. Who knows, I may have a run-in with him later today.

I'm the happiest person in the world right now!! :D

Remember how I was worried because that guy hadn't e-mailed me back yet and I thought maybe he was ignoring me? Well, he's not! :)

He e-mailed me today. It just turns out that he's really bad at not checking his e-mail, and sometimes he wonders what Hotmail filters out of his inbox. He said that he'll have to catch up with me sometime on MSN Messenger so we can chat.

Oh the bliss!! :love:

Cross your fingers and GOOD LUCK! :thumb:

Spill something on him, and then offer to take him to dinner to make it up to him.;)

Hehe. :angel: That might be kinda hard for me to do, though, considering he sells cell phones, and I would have a hard time sneaking something into Wal-Mart to spill on him. Thanks for the advice, though. :D