If you hurt someone's feelings and you know you were in the wrong. And no matter what you do you can't take back what you have done.

How do you get their trust and love back?

Do you buy them something?
Do you get on your knees and ask for forgiveness?
Do you just go on with your life and maybe one day they will forgive you?
Do you keep bugging them untill they give in or they call the cops?
Do you just say forget it and leave them alone?
Do you show up at their house naked and let nature take its course?

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You hurt my feelings, girl!!:cry: You'd better show up naked here, a.s.a.p!!:D

Seriously...If it was someone I REALLY cared about, I'd be on my knees, begging!:angel:

Catches a plane to Silvers house!!

Well, If I know I'm in the wrong, I try to apologize as soon as I can. However, that is not easy when things are debated and heated. I need a cooling down period and time to think about my actions. I figure the other person needs this as well. I don't like to stew over things too long, so an apology comes within 24 hours. I will usually go to the person, so I can face them. I need to know there reactions by reading their face. An apology card is always nice, but if it's love, that's a whole different matter. Every mistake/argument/disagreement comes with a different apology, depending on the severity of the words exchanged. In the end, if nothing works, I tend to let it alone. I hope the person will think about it and decide to forgive me. If not, move on and learn from the mistake.

Very wise words Trixter.
I don't see how any women could stay mad at you;)

......and this person shouldn't stay mad at you either Milani - we're all human, we all make mistakes (however big) - let the person know that you're truely sorry and hopefully over time they will forgive you.
If you ever hurt or upset me (which is highly unlikely) I will always find a way to forgive you - people do silly things that they can't explain their actions for - it's part of the human composition -everyone deserves a second chance :wave:

Time heals all wounds Milani :) I kinda know the situation that you are in......Good Luck :)

I only know one person who is perfect ;), so I'm pretty sure almost everyone can relate to what you're going through here.

It really depends on the situtation, Milani. I've tried everything you listed, and sometimes what worked one time or with one person didn't work again. It depends on what you've done, to whom, and sometimes even why.

The only thing I think always applies is that you should apologize somehow. Sometimes the person won't listen. Sometime's he'll listen and not forgive you, or even forgive you but nothing is ever the same anyway. I know you hate to hear this right now, but sometimes you can't get back trust and love. Apologize, and be prepared to let what will happen, happen. You should never say you're sorry to try to change things; you should say you're sorry because you honestly are sorry.

If nothing else ever comes of it, at least you will know that you owned up to whatever it is you did and were a big enough person to apologize for it.

Most importantly, after you apologize to the other person, you have to forgive yourself. People screw up, and what's done is done. Regardless of the outcome, learn from your mistake, and move on. Whatever direction that may be.

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Do you buy them something? maybe..not usually tho
Do you get on your knees and ask for forgiveness? NO
Do you just go on with your life and maybe one day they will forgive you? DEFINITLY NOT
Do you keep bugging them untill they give in or they call the cops? NO
Do you just say forget it and leave them alone? maybe leave them alone for a little while after an apology
Do you show up at their house naked and let nature take its course? hmmmm
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hey milani...have you moved from Ky to HELL???:devil:
as the late bon scott once quoted: hell aint a bad place to be!

keep you head up, stay strong, and don't give in

Thanks !!!!!!!

We worked things out!
It is hard to be mad at me!!!:lol: I am such a loveable person.




I never moved it is just getting worse around here.. especially since it is V day!!!!!!!!

Originally posted by Milani
It is hard to be mad at me!!!:lol: I am such a loveable person.


I will second that :)

It's not so difficult to say "I'm sorry". What's hard is to swallow your own pride. But if you accept you're not perfect, and it's not a shame to make mistakes, saying "I'm sorry" is so easy...

P.S. :D Although a good branch of flowers always helps

Thanks for the advice Guancho!!