What would it be?

I have GOT to say, that WOW, this one would be hard to narrow down for me. I have made BUNCHES of mistakes. Hey, I've come out okay, but if I had to change something...

Probably that thing I married the first time. Handsome is as handsome does. :barf: I might have waited a LOT longer to get married than I did, and without that little "distraction" in the way, I might have gone on to school, where I belonged.

I know, there is no changing what already was, and this isn't a time to wallow in regret, it's just a "If I coulda..."

So...what about you?

I'd change the last year I spent with my mom before she died. I was a mess and didn't get to fully focus on the mother daughter relationship. I was too busy being a caretaker to her and needed to keep my mind off of the fact that she really was dieing. I'd have insisted on getting help in her caretaking, listening to her more closely and just enjoying her presence.

As Brandy, I have many. I wish I had got into a relationship with my friend Jeff like he wanted but I insisted on just being friends.

I don't have one incident or thing that stands out over alll other that I wish I could change,

a few things I wish I could change

-never have started to smoke

-wish I had not teased a kid in my neighbour hood , who was very feminine, (turned out Gay, his father disowned him etc). He talks to my sister through Facebook, I now know how difficult a life he had growing up , and it wasn't just me ,but all the guys from grade one up teased him , even when we had no clue what a gay person was, we called him sissy etc. I saw his profile on Facebook and was going to apologize , but I don't want to bring back bad memmories for him, and how can an e-mail apology ever make up for years of abuse.

- wish I had joined the Foreign Service (you know the people who work in Embassy's etc). I passed the three tests , but backed out because I didn't want to move away from home, same for the air force , officer training, didn't want ot cut my hair or move,

I know I'm going to regret not spending more time with my father , seems with work, family, weather, I'm only getting home once every 3-4 months, he's old, in poor health and actually cries when I have to leave now. He's the one person who has always been there for me, seemed like he could right every wrong, and even into my 40's I still seek his approval before making any big decisions.

There is a LOT of things I wish I could change that I did wrong. The number one thing though would be marrying my ex-husband. He was not a good person for me. It seemed like lots of things in my life that went wrong was somehow affected by me being with him.

They helped make me who I am. I accept them. I'd probably make them all again.

I've learned from all of my mistakes. Life lessons. I've lost somethings along the way but I've also gained a lot.

My one regret is not being able to say goodbye to my Father. I'll carry that for the rest of my life.

The only thing I can think of is I'd have given my life over to Christ a lot sooner but like Val says it made me who I am.

I've made a few wrong choices in my life. Some I'm still kicking myself for. Nevertheless, we learn from our mistakes and hopefully become better people.

Not even gunna get into it. Suffice to say I made a huge mistake that hurt one of the sweetest people I know to their core and changed our relationship forever.

I'd give anything to take that back. :(

wish I had not teased a kid in my neighbour hood , who was very feminine, (turned out Gay, his father disowned him etc). He talks to my sister through Facebook, I now know how difficult a life he had growing up , and it wasn't just me ,but all the guys from grade one up teased him , even when we had no clue what a gay person was, we called him sissy etc. I saw his profile on Facebook and was going to apologize , but I don't want to bring back bad memmories for him, and how can an e-mail apology ever make up for years of abuse.

You might be surprised! If he is not local, you could have a valid reason for using facebook to facilitate the mending the ways. I'd at least give it a shot. If anything, he would know you felt bad for teasing him.

If he doesn't accept it...just move on.

I guess when I look at my life in perspective of a few years later, I don't really regret anything I've done. I feel our mistakes, as well as our successes, make us who we are. Life is a learning experience. If you think about it, we learn more from our mistakes than we do from our successes. All we can really do is dust ourselves off and try again.

i know there are plenty there that i could say i regret, but i don't think that would be fair to myself. like others have said it makes us who we are and i really don't think i could be wear i am now if i wouldn't have made some choices... some good some bad, they made me stronger. i don't tend to focus so much on them.. i see everday mistakes and say "man i shouldn't have done that or said that" but what am i really changing? it is already done.
i would say the one thing today i wish i could take back is sending a message to the wrong person, someone who i no longer talk to, and actually getting a response. should have paid attention and not sent it to the wrong person... don't know where this is going to go, but i can't dwell on it.. just wish it wouldn't have happened.

Someone I should have trusted more, but I didn't because...we, they know why. My life would have been fuller, I would have learned so much more, I would have been further along in my healing. I sometimes screw myself out of good things by trying too hard to keep out bad. :(

wish I had not teased a kid in my neighbour hood , who was very feminine, (turned out Gay, his father disowned him etc). He talks to my sister through Facebook, I now know how difficult a life he had growing up , and it wasn't just me ,but all the guys from grade one up teased him , even when we had no clue what a gay person was, we called him sissy etc. I saw his profile on Facebook and was going to apologize , but I don't want to bring back bad memmories for him, and how can an e-mail apology ever make up for years of abuse.

You might be surprised! If he is not local, you could have a valid reason for using facebook to facilitate the mending the ways. I'd at least give it a shot. If anything, he would know you felt bad for teasing him.

If he doesn't accept it...just move on.
He may well appreciate it. When I think of the bullies at school and how some of them made my life a misery, if they ever apologised to me, it would mean a lot.

He may well appreciate it. When I think of the bullies at school and how some of them made my life a misery, if they ever apologised to me, it would mean a lot.


I agree. It think to this day this is why I am the way I am with bullies. Now that I am an adult and I have a voice, I don't put up with them, especially if they are bullying someone I care about :tbomb: DON'T start shit with someone I care about.

That's an easy one for me. I would have put Stefani into inpatient rehab instead of trusting her to do what she needed to do to get clean. I don't think I was there for her when she needed me the most. :(

That's an easy one for me. I would have put Stefani into inpatient rehab instead of trusting her to do what she needed to do to get clean. I don't think I was there for her when she needed me the most. :(


jen*, it is almost impossible sometimes to know what to do for someone with those kinds of problems. As the product of two addicts, I can tell you, I know this for a fact. There is never a "good" choice. It's gut wrenching and agonizing and sadistic at its very best.

I know that telling you not to beat yourself up over this is fruitless because I've beaten myself up for YEARS about stuff. All I can tell you is that, you did the best that you could, and that is all anyone can ever fo.

Gosh, I think that almost all of my life could need a rewind/erase button...

If there is one thing I could change, it was my decision to drop out after secondary school and become a car mechanic (or at least attempted) instead of carrying on three years more gaining a diploma qualifying for university admission or matriculation.

From that moment on, my life was pretty much running down the hill.

Like everyone's said, our mistakes are what we learn from and make us who we are. But the thing I'd take back is not taking out my hurt on other people. I got hurt so I figured it was my right to hurt others before they hurt me. I could have been much nicer and had such good friendships if I hadn't put myself on the offense.

I've made LOTS of mistakes. I try to learn from each and everyone. Sometimes it takes me awhile... but I "get it".

I don't know if I would change anything, because those things DID make me what I am today.

And I don't think I'm half bad. :lol::D

And I don't think I'm half bad. :lol::D
I KNOW I'm bad!!!!