Well, gang, I have to confess.

I've been lying to the Xchange about my true feelings regarding various miscellaneous items.

I lied about liking Britney Spears. The only reason I said I liked her was because I felt I had to after the derogatory comments I made about her. I actually have stood by those comments in real life, but I said I liked her to appease all of you.

The same goes for Ashton Kutcher. I said some things about him and I still believe in them, even though on here, I purportedly apologized for my actions.

While I do have sympathy for his daughter, I have to be honest and say I don't think it was a great loss when Kurt Cobain blew his brains out.

Also, I am very offended by ethnic, racial and political humor. I've only said I laughed at various jokes because I wanted to prove I have a sense of humor I don't really have.

This is a very hard post for me to write, but please understand why I lied. I lied because I had offended people and I was trying to make peace. Unfortunately, I can't carry on the charade any longer.

If you can understand why I did it, then please allow me to stay. If you're angry, you feel betrayed or you're pissed off at me, I fully understand and will leave if you want me to.

It's your call. I just couldn't hold it in anymore. I have to be me, even if that means alienating people with my strongly worded views.

Sincerely,

John "outofplacechild" Kilduff

Dude, don't be sorry about being yourself!

The only problem most people had with your not liking certian things was how bent out if shape you got over them. You don't need to agree with what others say, just don't say anything. Or just don't get so mad when people disagree with you.

I think Britney looks good, but I also think she is a ho! I do like some of her music too.

As far as jokes go, just don't read them.

That's it for now........ :)

Dude.. I'm crushed about you lying to us about you liking Britney.. I mean.. how could you do such a thing? :mad:

John... Why would anyone be mad about such a trivial thing??? No one cares who you personally like and don't like... seriously... we have told you on numorous occasions to just chill out and be yourself anyway... there's nothing to prove to anyone here. You couldn't hold it in anymore? This sort of thing really torments you so much that you feel the need to discuss it here? Why don't we just agree to disagree.. we are all just people with different points of views.. (VERY different in most cases) but who cares?
I honestly can't believe that I am replying to this thread.. I must be tired because I normally wouldn't do this...

LIGHTEN UP! (I know.. you hear that ALL the time)...

I don't care if you like Britney spears or not, actually I'm kind of glad, it makes my odds of picking her up a little better.

Look, I dislike some of the music, tv or movies other xchangers love, but I know everyone is entitled to their own opinion, I don't start arguments or insult their tastes, I realize everyone is different :)

You don't have to lie about how you feel about anything, but you do have to remember that just because you CAN say something, it doesn't always mean that you SHOULD say it. Opinions about pop culture stars aren't a big deal so there is no reason to lie about them--if a joke is offensive, or you are afraid that it might be offensive, or whatever, just let it go. I would recommend you just don't read anything posted in Comedy Central at all. Frankly, I get offended about some of the stuff posted here too, but I just don't let it get to me, and I don't respond to it. The best way to shut down someone/something you don't like is to simply not support it, and live the way you know is right no matter what someone else is doing.

You seem to feel that just because you have differences with people that it means that you can no longer have anything to do with them, or that they will not have anything to do with you. If that were true, nobody would talk to anyone else ever again.

Don't respond to what offends you, or with whom you find offense, and remember that if, for example, you were offended with me, that I am not likely to change, so simply don't communicate with me--problem solved!

You worry about this petty stuff to much!! Who cares what people think about you?

It's no biggie OPC, I doubt anyone really cares. We care about YOU but not the stuff in this post. ;)

I am gonna have to say and agree with what has been said.

Don't lie about your feelings, make them known, DONT over react or get bent out of shape. Try to avoid situations that might be hard for you to take or deal with.

If all the jokes offend you stay away from comedy central.

Be yourself but make sure not to over react.

OPC I am sure we have differnt view point's, I am a democrat so I know this to be true.

But I am doing not so great a job, so I will leave this job to the next poster.

Way to go OPC. You managed to Lie about things nobody cared about, and now made a post that gives you the warm fuzzies because people tell you "Its okay". You got lots of attention. Congradulations.

I'm sorry that you felt the need to lie about your feelings in order to maintain friends here, John. You should always be yourself and stand by your opinions, no matter how unpopular those opinions might be. :)

I get lots of shit for liking Eminem but you know what. I don't care his music is still good to me.

I actually like Britney's looks and music so that really makes me different on this board but you know what? I don't care, her music is still good to me.

I don't like ethnic jokes, but you know what? I don't read them.

I don't like male bashing jokes, so you know what? I don't read them.

I hate Kurt Cobain and Nirvana, Do I wanna say I'm glad he's dead, not really (that's just mean) but does it affect me? nope.


Can I believe I'm responding to this attention getting thread? not really but oh well, I already did.

That's it Daffy... I'm disowning you for that Eminem love... :laugh:

Seriously... and I don't know how to make this any clearer... everyone is accepted for who they are around here. There's no way in hell everyone in such a diverse international community is gonna agree on everything and be of the exact same mindset. If we did, the place would be pretty dull... not to mention dead.

You love the 80s right? Well, one of the primary characteristics of that decade was originality. So if you're an 80s man and want to be true to the 80s spirit, you should be true to yourself and don't try and be something your not to find acceptance. Believe it or not, people will respect you more if you be yourself and stay true to your beliefs...

I really do not care for Britney Spears music at all, and I think without makeup she is just one ordinary plain Jane.

I never liked Curt Cobain, and I didn't think his death was world shattering news either as I never liked Nirvana.

I disagree on a whole lot of other opinions on here - the whole reason why we went to war with Iraq being another well documented one, But after getting enraged,and then taking a 'leave of absence' you know what John? I missed this place big style, and the only loser was me in the long term.

You just have to tell yourself that you aren't alone in your opinions, but sometimes just not posting at all may be a better option now and again.

Sorry Guys but I'm with Jasper on this one.

Count me in on being with Jasper's opinion as well.

Although I might have said it a bit differently, I can see Jasper's point too, and I do resent it when people use a disability as an excuse to make other people do what they want them to do.

However, I don't think John is a bad guy and that 's why I am willing to try one more time to explain to him that it's all good here, and just not to let stuff get to him so much. I don't know if there is a lot more that I can say, though, other than that I think that John just may need to see a professional for some help (and I am not saying that to be mean--there is no shame in that)

And, by the way John--I am not making fun of your disability because I have some disabilities too that make it very hard to relate to people. The difference between us is this: I have gotten help for them, I continue to follow up with help, and it's made a huge impact in my life. I hope that you can too.

I'm keeping my mouth shut on this one....

Well, I can see I've irritated a lot of people with this topic.

Please believe me when I say I'm not using my disability as a push point to get people to agree with me. I just want to look at it logically...Would you want to be friends with a liar?

Seeing as how I've managed to irritate a lot of you, I think this will be my last post for a while.

See you in a few months.

Sincerely,

John "outofplacechild" Kilduff

Hey John, you are never going to be able to please every person all the time. As long as you stay true to yourself, then that is all that matters.

I just want to look at it logically...Would you want to be friends with a liar?

No John, we wouldn't. That's why people here are trying to get across the point to you that you don't have to lie about your feelings on such trivial subjects to try to stay on good terms with everyone around here. Just be yourself. We're all different for a reason -- and it keeps things interesting.